What does it mean? does he love me?

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Registered: 03-13-2004
What does it mean? does he love me?
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:32pm
I have met a guy for 2 months ( total 3 dates for 2 months). Last date was my Birthday. Thing that he never called me, and I decided to call him and ask him out for the weekend of my Birthday. He was okay and took me out for dinner. That was our 3rd date. He gave me a birthday gift with a set of sleepwear and a mint box set. What did he mean when he gave me such a gift? please tell me what a guy think about the relationship when he decides to give the sleepwear gift to his date. A confusing thing that he gave me a Birthday card with the words 'FRIENDS" not "FOR SPECIAL PERSON" or "FOR HER"...nothing said 'love'......I dont' know what he thinks about me? I am an Asian, for our culture, we bielive that when a kiss happens, means a boyfriend and girlfriend ralationship. But he is american, I am Asian American, and we kissed and had some further closer relationship (but no sex).....but it meaned 'friend' to him?????? I am so tired of this relationship and I don't know if he is interested in me? but WHY NOT CALL ME??????
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:46pm
Don't read too much into it. Perhaps, he had no idea that giving sleepware on a third date is not appropriate. Go with a flow and see if this guy pursue the relationship with you. I wouldn't sum up anything for now especially "Love" thing.
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 11:13pm

I think the two of you are having a serious case of different expectations due to your cultural differences.

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 10:04pm
Sheri, I think you're right. That's what I doubt about him. I really like him, but I don't know if he likes me or not.....and i always think that he is not that iternested much in me, that's why he does not call me. Should I still keep this relationship? maybe patient and see how he treats me? should I give him time?
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 10:17pm

I'm not sure you *have* much of a relationship at this point.

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Registered: 04-07-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 10:20pm
I would see him again if he calls you in advance - don't call him - and plans or suggests a date for several days later - with no prompting from you. However, I wouldn't hold my breath and would go about my normal life including dating others if that is what you feel like doing. In my experience, a man who wants to date me calls me at least once a week, asks to see me at least once a week, and if he knew it was my birthday, would definitely at least call me to wish me a happy birthday (or more, depending on how long we'd been dating).
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 11:18pm
He did not know my birthday because we've just started relationship for 2 months. So if I did not tell him, he would not know. But I agree that he does not call me that means he is not that much interested in me????? when I called him, I asked if he had available time for that weekend, he said that he would not have . Then I told him "don't worry about it'. It is my birthday." When he heard that he said he may be able.....then he sent a text message to me the day after and asked me out for Friday instead Saturday because he had to do smt else on the weekend for the following week business travel. Then he took me out for dinner on Friday to celebrate my birthday.

Since last Friday, he never calls me after the birthday. I dropped him a text message to say 'thank you' for that night and he has ever returned me. I think I will listen to your advice and give him time, but I don't know it's worth it????? I DO REALLY LIKE HIM.....I want a healthier relationship but he does not want to develop. Don't you think? Please help!