What does this mean?

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Registered: 05-14-2007
What does this mean?
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 5:59pm
I swear sometimes the most random of things happen to me and I don't even see it coming, it's just incredible. Well it all started about 2-3 weeks ago. I had to get new glasses because the ones I have, the frame is super delicate and they can break easily, so while I was having my first one fixed I decided to get another pair that were much stronger. ANYWAYS, sooo lately when my Dr. would see me he would just come up to me and give me a huge hug and a kiss. I didn't really think much about it sooo I brushed that off. 2 weeks later my cousin needed to get an eye test done cuz obviously she wasn't seeing well. So I took her to my Dr and I accompanied her while she got her test. The dr again saw me and gave me this huge hug and kiss. So me and my cousin step into his office and the Dr and I are just talking and talking and talking. I dont even remember how the convo started all I know is that he ends up talking about Alex (my ex) and how he had noticed how controlling he is and bla bla (which is not far from the damn truth) so I was talking to the Dr about that and he goes well I have noticed that and asks me if I was happy and lots of other stuff to which I simply told him the truth, nothing to hide. He goes oh I'm going to make him jealous , next time you're here im going to hug you more than ever and he stands up and gives me a hug and a kiss...I'm like umnnnn uh huh. So then he goes Stephanie you are so mature for your age its incredible you should just leave that behind you and focus on someone older than you. Whom is that the same capacity that you are. Then he goes " You are probably going to end up dating a 30 something year old with his own business, established" I looked at him and I thought damn he is describing himself...and I just go Oh really, he goes yeah. You know who that person is but you maybe don't want to admit it, that person is closer to you than you think. Ok right about then my mind is like oh what in the hell lol. But he then continues to do my cousins test and bla bla. Afterwards I get up to leave and just joking I go so doc who's that lady out in front he goes Oh its this lady that won't stop coming here and I look at him like Uh huh yea sure...although it was the truth cuz his secretary had told me, but anywho I couldnt keep talking to him and he goes we shall talk about this over the phone...I came out of that office going..what just happened...soo was he flirting, I've always felt attracted to him but now I dont know if he actually likes me or if it was all joking ...*confused*
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 10:59am
Yes he was coming on to you. Technically a doctor could lose his license for becoming intimate with you while you are his patient. The patient will always be seen as the innocent in that scenario, because the doctor knows better. The last day you were there, with your cousin he made it real obvious that he was interested in something more. Some would feel that he violated you already by making those moves at you, because he is taking advantage of the patient/doctor relationship. Some people do date their doctors and don't feel that the doctor violated them in the process.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:00pm

Yes, that does sound like flirting to me and it is also very wrong and extremely unethical.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 5:46pm
Yes, I agree he was coming on to you and was being unprofessional. It's ground for losing license. I know for a fact that drs (I'm an MD) are not supposed to date their patients. In some instances he can't date his patients EVER, not just while they're being his patient. I don't know for sure if he could date you after you stop being his patient. I haven't looked into this b/c I don't ever plan to date any of my patients despite my dateless situation. Haven't met any that I would want to date anyway. To imagine the scenerio where I met a hottest guy in my practice is difficult. I don't know, you should look into it. If it's ok to date after the dr-pt RS is terminated, then you can go out with him I suppose.