what does that mean?!
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what does that mean?!
| Mon, 10-11-2004 - 2:43pm |
hi,
a very good friend of mine told me that he has a "healthy crush" on me!! he said that after he was flirting like crazy for a couple of months saying all sorts of things starting from "no one has ever managed to make me feel this way" to "i have really special feelings for you".
but the "crush" word was a total surprise..
i just couldn't get it. i don't know how am i supposed to react to it. it's definitely not "i love you" and it's not even "i would like us to be together"
a very good friend of mine told me that he has a "healthy crush" on me!! he said that after he was flirting like crazy for a couple of months saying all sorts of things starting from "no one has ever managed to make me feel this way" to "i have really special feelings for you".
but the "crush" word was a total surprise..
i just couldn't get it. i don't know how am i supposed to react to it. it's definitely not "i love you" and it's not even "i would like us to be together"
i have never expressed my interest in him before, and i just got out of a realtionship, and he was there for me as a friend. although i do find him attractive and funny, and we do click in so many ways.
but this whole "crush" thing, tunred my world up-side-down..
please help!

If you decide you don't want a relationship with him, then I would distance myself a little bit and tell him truthfully that you are flattered but you just want to remain friends.
If you want to move this into the next level, then I would wait until you are alone again and ask him if he would like to go out and do something, kind of like a date, dinner etc. I think perhaps he told you he had a crush on you because he wanted to see your reaction. He did not come out and ask you for a date because he may be scared of rejection. There's nothing wrong with following up by asking him out or telling him how flattered you were by his confession.
I don't think he would confess having a crush on you, unless he wants a relationship with you but he may be scared to come out and say he wants you 2 to be together. I think you should make the next move.
i still don't know if i want to persue this or not. i'm still hurting over my breakup, and i don't feel ready for a new relationship just yet. not to mention destroying a great friendship by making the wrong move.
do you think i should just inore this?