What does this mean?

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Registered: 09-26-2004
What does this mean?
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 5:42pm
Hello, all

I am a male that would like to get a female perspective on

the phrase, "Keep in touch." To provide a little background,

I've gone out with this girl on a couple of dates, and we

both have enjoyed each other's company. On the end of the

second date, she told me she was going to be busy at work

the next couple of weeks before she goes on vacation, and

asked me to keep in touch.

My take on this is that she doesn't have any interest in

seeing me in the future, and is trying to be polite. Is this

accurate or am I reading too much into this?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-26-2004 - 6:29pm
Yeah, that sounds about right. If she were really interested, she'd make time for you and would have made clear that she wanted to see you again despite her busy schedule.

You could *try* asking her out again, but I have a feeling you'd either get the run-around or a polite acceptance that's later cancelled. But if you really like her, perhaps it's worth the risk, rather than wondering "what if".

Sheri

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Registered: 08-07-2004
Sun, 09-26-2004 - 8:47pm
Yeah, thats a bad way of saying "not interested", but--maybe she is going to be really busy and cant see you for a little while--so I'd check in with her in a couple of days and point blank ask when she might be able to make plans again. I am a single mom with three kids--and I work in healthcare so I work every other weekend --so there is only 2 nights the entire month that I am off of work and dont have my kids--so early on in any relationship my time is really limited. Of course--if they get to the point of meeting the kids--they will be more then allowed to come over after they are alseep--etc. But--MY time is far and few between--so the other posts saying that if she was interested she'd make time?? Well no matter how interested I might be in someone I have 2 nights a month--that IS my ONLY free time!! ANd there is nothing I can do about it--kids and work are priority! Just check in with her and make sure you are reading what she is saying right.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:06pm
I hear you on the busy schedule, but wouldn't you *say* to a guy you were really interested in, "my schedule is crazy for the next couple weeks, but I'm really interested in seeing you again...the next night I have free is Tuesday the 10th" or something like that?

Sheri