What is going on here?

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Registered: 11-04-2003
What is going on here?
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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 10:00pm

Hello all,
Previously, I had entered in a discussion about this guy that I had met at a bar who is the DJ there every Wednesday, and also happens to be the son of a co-worker of mine. At the end of this night, he seemed very interested in me, asking questions about what I do at work, where I go to school, and this whole time he kept looking over at me and smiling when I wasn't talking to him. Right before my friend and I left, he asked eagerly for my number, so I gave it to him.
I never received a call from him, but I figured somehow he might've gotten the wrong number since it was shouted over to him while we were at the bar. 3 weeks later, we went back to the bar, and when I walked in, he noticed me right away and waved and smiled at me. I walked up to him, didn't mention that I hadn't heard from him, but just said hi, and asked him how he was. He did the same thing, but never mentioned that he didn't call or didn't try calling me either. We walked on, and then before we left, I just said that we were going to take off, and he said that it was good to see me and said bye. I was so confused as to what happened.
The very first night he couldn't seem to take his eyes off me, and eagerly asked for my number. Now he is still talking to me and being nice, but it seems like he's not making any effort.
I'm so confused as what to do. I really like this guy, and normally don't feel feelings for someone so strongly after I have just met the person.
My friends think I should take the inititiative and ask him out for coffee, or some other sort of gathering, but I'm terribly shy and have never purused a guy before.
Could he be doing this on purpose, by playing it all cool and nonchalant so I make a move, or is he just not interested in me anymore?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

P.S. The situation in which I see him is hard to talk to him, because he's working/DJ'ing at the same time, so he can't talk a whole lot.
-C

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 12:08am

If I remember correctly, his mom knew that you talked to him that first night, right?

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 12:31am
I'm just such a wuss! I could not imagine myself asking his mom for his number and then calling him. I have NEVER pursued a guy in my life. Not because I haven't wanted to, but I guess I'm just used to being pursued, and the fact that I am extremely shy comes into play.
Could he possibly be playing hard to get right now? His actions are confusing me.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 10:49pm

Guys don't play "hard to get", girls do.

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