What is this guy thinking?!!
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What is this guy thinking?!!
| Fri, 12-02-2005 - 4:05am |
Here is my dilemma:
I am currently crushing on a guy that I have been friends with for about 9 months. In the beginning of our friendship we would go to the movies, shopping, out to eat...you know typical date stuff. I began to develop feelings for him and told him so. He said that he considered pursuing a relationship with me, but a fling that I had with a casual acquaintance of his had him conflicted. For two months he acted as though he was angry at me for sharing my feelings but now lately our relationship has resumed. Once again we are going out to eat, shopping, just hanging out. I am scared to ask him where this is going because of his reaction the first time around. How do I find out where his mind is without alienating him?
I am currently crushing on a guy that I have been friends with for about 9 months. In the beginning of our friendship we would go to the movies, shopping, out to eat...you know typical date stuff. I began to develop feelings for him and told him so. He said that he considered pursuing a relationship with me, but a fling that I had with a casual acquaintance of his had him conflicted. For two months he acted as though he was angry at me for sharing my feelings but now lately our relationship has resumed. Once again we are going out to eat, shopping, just hanging out. I am scared to ask him where this is going because of his reaction the first time around. How do I find out where his mind is without alienating him?

tasha-z-73...
Quick question from Pianoguy:
Do you NEED an ANSWER RIGHT NOW???
Shouldn't the quality time the 2 of you can spend together matter than trying to 'figure out his intentions?'
If the solid relationship the 2 of you seem to be having continues into JUNE...ask your b/f where he thinks things are headed between you? But for now....enjoy the ride and stop trying to write a chapter of your life---that hasn't been lived yet!
Pianoguy
I'm a little concerned that this guy thinks you have forgotten about that conversation you had about your romantic feelings for him. Does he think that that issue is now off the table because time has passed?
I don't understand why a "fling" you had with somebody he barely knows would cause his concern. Perhaps you could start there and see whether he is till concerned about your interaction with his acquaintance. Also don't understand why he would be angry about an honest conversation about your feelings toward him.
Not to get off track, but this guy might just like things the way they are and doesn't want to make any changes. Don't wallow too long in a holding pattern with this man if this is the case.
Hey... I sympathize with your anxiety about this... I've been there, before, and it's not much fun.
But, I hate to sound cliche, yet it seems he's just not that into you. If he returned those feelings, he would have done something about it. If your previous friendship has resumed, I think that's your answer.
No offense to all the guys here, but men just aren't that complicated in behavior, typically. He wouldn't be sitting there, wanting to move into a romantic level, and NOT. You made your interest clear, there's no danger for him, anymore. Yet, he hasn't made that move. I can't buy the "conflicted" story. He wants you, or he doesn't.
Remember, this is jut my opiniion based on personal experience and observation of others'.
Don't waste your time on a crush going nowhere. By all means, remain friends if it desn't cause you heartache, but look elsewhere for romance.
Love, Barb