What happened? I'm Confused...
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| Fri, 08-11-2006 - 6:43pm |
Hi,
I asked for help a couple of years ago and it really helped...so, here I am, again.
I met this guy through his female Cindy, who is my coworer. He had seen my profile on myspace and he asked Cindy to hook him up with me. Met him and his friends in Tahoe for a weekend and we hit it off-no sex but we slept in the same bed holding each other. Then he came up for a river weekend a couple of weeks later. During those weeks we emailed, texted and talked on the phone. We had sex. Than we continued to hang out with friends and he also invited me to a party for the fourth of july (which was hosted by one of his cousins-male). That was the last time I saw him-he said goodbye and told me he would call me later while I was still in bed.
We were supposed to go to a lake and spend another weekend -a whole bunch of us. He was supposed to get reservations but it never happened-I wrote him an email asking him if him and his friend were still going and he replied by saying "I'm calling tomorrow about the reservatons and I will call you guys later-the last couple of weeks have been hectic" so i thought everything was fine. I asked Cindy if she knew anything but she was on the same page--he didn't reply to her messages. I decided not to push it so I haven't called or emailed him at all...recently, cindy told me that he's looking for another apartment and that he's been stressing out because he can't find one...is he done with me? I don't want to talk to cindy about it because I don't want to put her in such position but I would like to know what went wrong, if anything...I really liked him :(

Does this guy live in the same area as you? Because I don't understand why you haven't met him for an actual date other than these weekend flings.
This guy might have just viewed you as some summer fun but now he is busier and doesn't have time to get together for another weekend.
It's time to move on.
But........it does sound like he likes you or was quite interested in you. The apartmnet hunting could be stressful, so let's give him the benefit of the doubt. BUT, at this point you should definitley leave him alone. He knows where to find you. There is no doubt in his mind how you feel about him. Period. End of story. If he wants you then he will contact you. Perhaps he got weirded out b/c your so awesome he's not sure if he can measure up to your expectations. Maybe he's not as ready as he thought he was to be with only one girl. Maybe he hit his head and forgot your name. Point is, his reason doesn't really matter b/c the ball is in his court and if he wants to contact you, then he will.
BUT-some women think that if He doesn't work on their timeframe, then 'screw it'...and when he finally does call they're cold and irritated. Unless you find out he's a certified a certified nut, then when (if) he calls you, be open and receptive and probably if you allow him the chance, he'll offer some sort of explanation voluntarily. BUT--if this disappearing act happens again, then get rid of him.