What has he got to lose?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
What has he got to lose?
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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 5:18am
I was at a party 10days ago & there I met this definitely single man.I was leaving early so we exchanged e-mail addresses & phone numbers.Since then we've been exchanging mails daily & we've also chatted on MSN.We get on quite well together & have many interests in common,yet he's scared of meeting again seeing there's a 9yrs gap between us (I'm 28 & he's 37) which we didn't realise before when we originally met.I've got other dates lined up but just feel like cancelling them cos I can't focus on any other man now that I got to know this one,but he won't change his mind as to meeting up even though he says he misses me.Have you ever been in such a situation when someone likes you but is afraid at having a go at it?I've told him countless times that he's got nothing to lose.Please help me.
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 7:16am
Don't go canceling your life for someone who's not even willing to date. If the man is telling you to stay away, then stay away because it may not just be his age he's warning you against... He may have other situations that are going on that he's not talking about. And even if it is *just* the age difference, it's not worth pursuing because if both people are not willing to go out on a limb, then it just won't work in the end.

Go on those other dates, have a great time and chalk this guy up to a "would have been nice, but it won't work..." Good luck.