What is he thinking?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2004
What is he thinking?
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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:33am
Hi,

Meet this guy a few months ago, while I was still with my BF. The relationship with my BF of 5-years was not going anywhere and since both of us were attracted to eacn other, you can probably see how things turned out between me and this new guy. We fooled around a bit, and I felt guilty as hell because I was cheating on my BF- it went on for about a month.

Finally, when broke up with my BF (not to be with this new guy, but because of other issues) this guy started treating me very differently. For example, there was this time when I wanted to talk to him before he left for vacation, and tried calling him several times on his mobile (he claims it was 7 times in 2 hours). As he was experiencing network problems the day before, I thought the perhaps, the same problem existed that day. When I finally got through to him, he accused me of being a stalker and refused to listen to my explanation. I was so frustrated I went over to his house in an attempt to explain (in retrospect, it seems like a bad move)- he threatened to call the cops if I didn't leave the premises immediately and shoved me away from the door so he could slam it in my face. All this happened in front of his room-mate!!!

Did not call back since- would loose all respect for myself if I did. I guess I am past the hurting stage, but to this day, I still wonder what brought on that dramatic reaction from him. What made him behave this way? Do men treat women who show an interest in them like garbage?













iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2004
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 2:40am
I bet after he treated you this way, you still want him right? :) Women are attracted to this type.

Did he know you were with your bf for 5 years? If he does know, his reason is because you are cheating on your bf of 5 years, and he refuses to be the rebound guy. He's thinking "if she cheated on him of 5 years, she'll cheat on me" "its just a matter of time"

Its gonna take a hella long time to get over someone of 5 years

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 10:40am
What is he thinking?

That you were available for a no-strings-attached-sex-feast.

Then suddenly you were not with anyone and you start calling him all the time. He did not want a relationship with you in the first place, and was probably thinking that you were now trying to pursue one.

You are right not to bother.

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