What is he thinking????

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Registered: 07-07-2004
What is he thinking????
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 7:16pm
I will try to make this as short as possible!!!

Back when I was about 15 (6 yrs ago) I had a crush on this guy and he too had a crush on me. Nothing ever came about because we were so young and niether of us drove etc. I recently saw him after 2 yrs and we were drinking with a group of friends having fun and I was dying to know if the sparks were still there. I attempted to flirt a couple of times and his responses were what I was looking for so I went ahead and took it to another level. I brought up the past and showed him goofy pictures of us as young teens and of course mentioned the time I "used" to like him. At that time he immediatly approached me with a kiss and we went on kissing for a while then would stop and giggle about it then go right back to kissing. This went on for a while and nothing beyong kissing or fooling around took place. We later went back to all our friends, hung out some more, still flirting and everything seemed pefect. Everyone was now leaving, night was over and he kind of stuck around as if he were waiting for a hug goodbye or something more but for some reason I froze and didnt know how I was supposed to say goodbye so I kind of just walked with him and our other friends to thier cars and said bye to him with a smile & a wave. I know I chickened out and could of done something more but he also didnt say anything to end the night differently. This was about 3 wks ago and I am dying to know what he is thinking or if this was just a one time thing for him and it isnt even on his mind anymore! What kind of signs can I look for to see if maybe he is also questioning the same things I am and he is also just shy to go about it.....or how do i know if this was just a one night thing for him and he will just go on as if it did not happen??? I am so confused!!! If he thought more of it like I do, wouldnt he have tried calling me?????

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 7:37pm
Hello ichellemc!

Welcome to Ask the Dating Doyenne!!

ok, (this is my disclaimer) I can't tell you what he is thinking... only he can do that.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 7:44pm
Hon, what you initiated was instant gratification with no requirement or obligation.

And he was all over what was offered at the moment, in the moment.

But obviously if he wanted more in terms of getting ot know you - he'd have pursued it and he hasn't.

Erin

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:40pm
I agree with Erin. He was all over it that night- it was available. What guy would turn that down? If he was truly interested in anything more, I'm sure you would have heard something from now.

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Registered: 07-07-2004
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:47pm
I figured that too...but im still trying to be 50/50 about it. I still feel its just somewhat possible that he too might not know how to go about the situation but I guess ill never know until I see him again cuase I know I will never be able to get myself to call him!!