What is he thinking or does he??
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What is he thinking or does he??
| Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:41am |
I have been in a relationship with my guy for 2 1/2 years. He is a wonderful person. So sweet, honest, caring and just about as dingy as they come. HE does and says some of the craziest things. I am at my witts end with it. He cant fix his plate at dinner time without asking me what spoon to use to get the food out of the bowls. IT is just about to drive me crazy. He is very good to me and I know he loves me. But I dont know how much of this immaturity I can handle. We cannot have a mature conversation to save our lives. (example: the other day we were talking about building a house. or I was.. and he says yea and I got to have a secret room, like behind a book case or something) I almost fainted. I thought I cannot talk to this man. He always says something insane. That is when he says anything. Most of the time when I talk to him he just sits there. I just as well be talking to the dogs. As I said we have been together for 2 1/2 years and we have never had an argument. I have.. I have fussed about things and he just sits there and stares at the floor. Makes me feel like I am fussing at my well behaved little boy. I guess I just need a man with some backbone. I love him but I dont know that i can do this anymore. I am tired of being a witness to his stupidity. He dosent know how to do anything around the house. I keep telling myself that one day he is going to grow up and think before he says things and does things and maybe learn a thing or 2. I am only asking for the basic things that every man should know. Like how to hang a picture for crying out loud. But I am not getting any younger. ( I am 30... he is 25) and I dont know how much longer I can hold out. This is not the only problem we have. We dont communicate like I think we should. Like I said I can try to have a conversation with him and he never has anything to say and on the rare occasion that he does, more than likely it is going to be something that i didnt need or want to hear in the first place.
He is a really good person and I feel like if I leave him I will regret it. Because overall he is good to me, he takes care of me and I know he truly loves me. I am just so confused right now I dont know what to do. PLEASE HELP ME??...
I know if I tried to leave him it would break his heart. I have tried in the past. I dont know that I can do that. But I am not happy...OOOO,,,, what is a girl to do?
He is a really good person and I feel like if I leave him I will regret it. Because overall he is good to me, he takes care of me and I know he truly loves me. I am just so confused right now I dont know what to do. PLEASE HELP ME??...
I know if I tried to leave him it would break his heart. I have tried in the past. I dont know that I can do that. But I am not happy...OOOO,,,, what is a girl to do?

Pianoguy is AMAZED that you don't understand where your b/f's head is at! People who are creative, have imagination and aren't "schooled" in proper etiquette are often some of the most inventive people on this planet! But the exchange for these 'dingy displays' is often a lack of maturity.
And I guess this is something YOU want from him, right?
So if this is your priority...find a man who has the "backbone" you want...and is also capable of hanging a picture or two? Not all of us are able (or willing) to conform to an image you expect. We might be willing to "bend" in some directions, but if you're obsessed with pointing out all our flaws---there's really very little we can do to make you happy! Our failures will "override" the good things we try and do for you.
So the choice between making yourself happy...and subsequently, breaking the man's heart, IS YOURS! I'm sure an ivillager or two would recommend some sort of counselling for the gentleman? But I wonder....if a man is content within himself...along with the lifestyle he has chosen to pursue...is counselling or acceptance the REAL issue here?
Pianoguy (who---believe it or not---loves secret passageways and hidden rooms too!)
You need to decide if you will accept him for who he is or not.
And reading that all his little traits annoy you, may I suggest you break it off? If he's not the whole package you're looking for then why stay with him?