What the he34 is up with men?
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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:56pm |
Ok...here goes...i can't believe that i'm going to post this...I met a guy online in the "intimate" category. i've been out of a marriage for two years now and have two children, so i haven't had time for dating.
A guy stood out and we hit it off. i told him that i wasn't looking for anything serious and neither was he so we agreed on a FWB deal. iam 37yo...I've been around and i know the deal. We met for a drink and hit it off and agreed to meet that w/end. I should mention that i am plus sized...(i say that because I know that there are many men out there who would sleep with me, but many more who are not loking for anything more with me.) Well, honestly...he got in a car accident coming home from work out of town....I thought i was stood up, and told him in a text that that wasn't cool. He provided me proof in the form of a newspaper article that there really was an accident and everything added up. i made sure to follow up and honestly...everything that he said happened before the article came out...really did occur. We began talking again this past week. Honestly, the sexual chemistry was there. it was also obvious that the other stuff was there too. We had a lot in common. HOWEVER...i was still aware that our arrangement was FWB. We had over 60 text messages and 5 conversations within a two day period.
So, we had agreed to get together tonight at my house. It was understood i thought that this was just going to be fun. i decided to ask him a few more questions about him just so that i would feel safe. He refused to give me his last name. Anyhow, i get this text that he was "freaking out". "what happens if it doesn't work with us and is just a one night stand and I get upset? Maybe we should meet at a neutral place then we can just walk away and if we want to decide to meet again then we could." He asked me to book a room as he was still at work. "He'll call me in one hour."
Yeah... that was three hours ago. I didn't book the room as I knew something was up.
I text him asking if he was getting cold feet. No answer. I text him an hour later asking him if i was being stood up, and that if i was... that the decent thing would be to let me know. So, u guessed it...no call.
Seriously, i was not looking at this as anything more than what we had agreed to.What the he#$ is going on with this guy? He was very eager to get together with me and i have no idea what changed in his mind other than that he felt a chemistry between us and it scared him for one of several reasons: 1. I'm plus sized 2. He felt an attraction and that scared him, or 3. he really thought that i was going to fall for him.
Please, can anyone shed some light on this?

My take on this one is that he wanted the deal to be as unpersonal as it could be with no last names, no personal info and no strings attached.
By you asking him for personal info he saw that it wasn't going to be that easy with you. I personally won't judge your actions, BUT bringing a stranger into your home with kids is too dangerous (assuming your kids were there) and even without kids this man could be a killer and who would know?
Chatrooms provide the best place to meet people who can be what they want to be over the net. Rarely you can frind a man or woman who is telling the truth. It's the perfect place to fantasize about who you are.
Hi Keri... if that's your real name, then I've just met a