What is with him??

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Registered: 10-20-2005
What is with him??
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:30am
O.k....I'm going to make this as short as possible. I met this guy at the gym. He's a trainer. We started talking about two months ago. He asked me out soon after we met. He wanted to go out right then & there. I turned him down because I didn't know him. He gave me his phone number a few days later & asked me to call him so I did. He insisted that I call him...he didn't want my number. Anyway...we started talking almost every night for a few hours each night. I told him some personal things that I don't really ever share with anyone. He hasn't told me much about himself. He calls me less now. We talk on the phone a couple times a week. We don't talk at the gym anymore because he got in trouble for talking to me so much. So, when I see him at the gym, we just smile at each other. It's kinda weird. Anyway...when we talk now sometimes he gets kinda weird. Like the other night...he started asking me about sex. He knows I'm a virgin. He asked me if I had "urges" and if I'm "curious about it." I basically didn't answer him. I think it sort of makes him mad that I don't want to talk about it. I told him that I shouldn't have told him all that personal stuff about myself. He said that it doesn't bother him and that "you know I like you." I asked him if I pissed him off and he told me that I was "giving him a headache." We've been talking for 2 months. We haven't been on a date. He hasn't even asked me out again! What should I do?? Any advice??
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 3:40pm
This guy sounds like a total weirdo. I would stay away from him. It sounds like he's trying to "get with a virgin" (which is a lot of guys' dream). It seems that sex is all he wants to talk about. When you talk about your communication pattern, he tells you that you give him a headache. Do you really want to date a guy like that?

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 3:50pm
He didn't know I was a virgin until recently though.
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Registered: 10-20-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 4:05pm

I also asked him the other day why he started talking to me in the first place...why me?? He said, "It was totally random...it's my job to meet people & start talking to them." Yet, initially he had told me that he had been "watching me" since I joined the gym. What does THAT mean??