What if?

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Registered: 03-04-2006
What if?
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Thu, 11-15-2012 - 9:22pm

I met this guy a month ago and we seemed to hit things off. I had to go to a local concert and he came with me. He's invited me over to watch netflix and football on different nights. Two weeks into meeting, we did fool around. However, we hungout some more. He invited me to dinner at his place one night. Then, a couple of days ago I spent the night and watched football with him the next morning. I invited him to a party but he didn't come out. In fact, I went over only to talk about how he's not in the right place to date right now. He went on about how I am a great woman and we can still hangout. He proceeded to tell me that if I needed anyone to talk to he will be there. Sure enough he has/ We continue to text each other and I had a stressful deadline and he  prayed for me and gave me great words of encouragement. I can't help to think "What if?" with him. What should I do?

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 9:34am

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking. Are you wondering if you should stick around as either a friend or a friend-with-benefits in hopes that he will become your boyfriend?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 11:01am

I think that if you can accept this arrangement, then keep doing it, but don't be fooled into thinking it's going to lead to a relationship.  Women somehow don't listen to what men say and think they don't mean it, but they usually do, then when things don't change, the woman gets hurt.  But the guy told you he didn't want to date, which means to me that he doesn't want the obligations of a relationship, but you'd be fine to hang out with as a friend.  Now if someone told me that, I wouldn't have sex with him because I know I couldn't handle it.