What is My Problem?

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Registered: 07-10-2003
What is My Problem?
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:30am
OK, so maybe this isn't much of a problem. My roblem is that I am sick of all the adjectives people use to describe me. I am nice, sweet, cute. It's all I ever hear, and I don't fish for them and I have a pretty good self-image about myself. I truly believe I am dateable.

But I am not dating. I just had a guy tell me "You're smart and attractive and fun to be with *but*..." and all I could think was "What the Hell?" It makes me sick hearing people say they like me BUT I can not seem to find any guy willing to date me to give me a chance. I'd hate to think I'm goign to go the "bitter, cynical, snarky" route but I have had it up to here...I don't want to be cute anymore if that means I am treated like a painting. People admire me but then they move on. I really feel sometimes I have this glass wall around me, like people can not or don't want to get close to me for some reason. So if that is the case, how can I be cute?

I should be happy I am being complimented but I wish it counted for something, a kind of attraction, as I really feel my relationship searching has always been a one way street. Can only date the guys who are interested in me and those are few and far in between.

Please help...
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:53am

Hello lakatydid!

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:02pm
So how "real" are you?

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:17pm
When you first meet a man who sparks your interest, maybe hang back a little bit. I don't suggest "game playing" but don't go out of your way to be their "friend". Because when you do that, and are just so darn NICE right out of the box, you are essentially putting yourself in the friend category. If you meet a guy, express an interest, but if they are only wanting to "hang out" and treat you like a "pal" then you need to not waste your time there. Are you being yourself or trying to be liked? These are two very different agendas.
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