What is the point?
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| Sun, 06-17-2007 - 7:56pm |
Hello,
I am just confused! I meet that I thought was a nice, fun guy (Mr. X) on a single parent site (Yes I know that is probably not the brightest idea, or way to start TRYING to get back out there! LOL) about 1 year ago. We talked a lot for a few months, laughed a lot, and then he just stopped calling. I had NOT started dreaming/thinking we where going to get married or anything but it sure was nice to have someone to talk to!! Over the age of 7 that is! LOL Even if she is very wonderfully behaved, and a GREAT kido!
Anyway, Mr. X calls every few months and talks for a few minutes, and then that is it! I call him back in a few days and thank him for calling, we joke around for a minute then it is months, usually, before I hear from him again!
I have not talked to him since about Christmas and he called out of the blue last week! I did not even realize who it was until about 30 seconds into it! LOL He joked around a little and played the standard what have you been up to Q&A, then he had to go. It lasted all of about 3 and 1/2 minutes!!
In his words “I just saw your number laying here and I thought I would give you a call and see what you have been up to.” So why just 3 minutes!! LOL
I called 4 days later and thanked him and he said he might call me later that day if he finished up all he had to do, if not he would talk to me later. That call last all of about 1 and 1/2 minutes!
Now it is almost 1 week later (Yes I know that is really not a long time) and nothing, I am guessing it will be months before I hear from him again!!
What is the point of calling me and keeping in touch all be it for just a few minutes every few months???
I know Mr. X is not married because I have talked to 1 of his children before! He told me that whole story. He also told me (this last week when he called) that he had dated a woman for a few months but it was nothing serious and she was not good for his kids.
I am just confused and wondering about it!! In my early 30's I am still confused, and understand/know NOTING about men!!
Being a single Mom from the point of conception (just almost exactly!!), having a low thyroid problem and loosing a grand totally of 140 lbs., almost, (after fighting like hell for 6 years to find a DR that would actually help me with it!) I think I deserve to find a nice guy!! LOL I know poor me, it is SOOO hard and I just don’t know where to start!
I have my own business, and have it together (I think! LOL), but trying to get out on the dating seen after not dating for YEARS is just terrifying and I have no idea where to start or what to do! LOL
Maybe I am just wondering about the whole Mr. X situation to much but really, why does he do this and what is the point?? Especially for just a few minutes?? LOL
Thanks for your time and help!
txgrl74

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LOL! Well thank you!! I have wondered about that myself!! But like I said, it is SOOO nice just to have someone to talk to!
Online dating scares me so bad, but I have no idea what else to do! Everyone I know is married! LOL
True! Well me do flirt when we talk! LOL And it does not bug me that he calls it just bugs me that it leads me to believe that he will keep intouch, but I guess he is in a long drawn out way! LOL
I guess you are right maybe I should just call him to talk about something! I just don't know the rules of calling a guy! I was always taught not to call unless he does and if he does not call you back then you don't call at all!
I do have to admit that we are both sarcastic! And yes it has a sexual undertone! But we have had the whole sex talk! And what guy does not joke around in some way about sex, and does not like a girl that can dish it out and take it too! Maybe I am wrong!
I just don't know whow to gt past the whole now and then things and back to talking more regularly. I told him the last time that the last few times we have talked that I feel like I am letting him down or something. and he said now it's just..... Well I feel bad for not calling. But there was a pause so who knows!
We stopped talking regularly because he jumped my butt for no reason. I know he said he was stressed about work and asked me to call him and I got where I was going,(My cars engen over heated and I had to take my Dad's truck back to him in NM after my car got fixed) and when I did he just went off and then it was like 3 months before I heard from him.
Who knows but I guess it would not hurt to just call sometimes and tell him something!
Man I feel so Man stupid!! I never was to good at playing hard to catch, but i have the flirting thing down! LOL And now that I have been out of the game I feel like I am in pre-school!
Do you ever plan on actually meeting this guy? Or is he just a phone friend?
You can call him about anything because you have chatted enough times for it to not be looked upon in a funny way by him. Guys do like a woman who does take the time to call him. they don't always like doing all of the work. But you'll find out how he feels if you do call. Do you both share any interests? besides sex. You can call him about anything that has to do with those interests, just a suggestion.
LOL! ya we seemed to have a lot in commen! I had hoped to go to see him this summer, but then we stopped talking. When I called he asked if I was still planing a trip!
I think you are right I will try and just call him up like I used to do just any old guy friend and see what happens!
I know when he called I was redoing my duct work in my house! And he mumbled something about not needing a man around! So I guess I can ask him how to do stuff! LOL
He seemed really nice and we hit it off, and I would love to meet him! I think it is worth tryng to save/fix! I have not meet many men in my life that I just automaticaly felt that comfotable with!
Thanks for all your help with my Man stupidity!! LOL
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Hi, Hope you don't mind but I read this and I had to say something here. Please don't contact this man again. If you two have only communicated by phone and he is taking his anger out on you already, you don't know really what this man is all about and by YOU taking a trip to see him is very dangerous. If he wants to see you, it should be near your environment so you will be safer (and not letting him know where you live).
As far as being a single mom getting out there, I also did the online thing a few years back and let me tell ya, there was not one honest guy out there, seriously. One guy said he was a "few pounds overweight" and when we met for lunch he could not fit in the booth and was bleeding all during the lunch because he cut himself shaving! lmao. For real. Must Love Dogs is a great movie for you to watch.
Take your time, meet people around you, get involved with your daughters activities and you will meet other single dads that share your interests. You sound like you have a good life going, so keep it up and be safe.
Patty
PATTY
~Dare to believe in yourself~
HUMMMM... Well that is true, I guess. I let it slid because he said he was starting his own business up. But still...I think maybe there was some one else! LOL Who knows.
He has offered to meet in the middle to meet, and that would not be so bad. But I do thik that he should come to my town first.
Anyway, you are right maybe I should just try closer to home. I just have been out of it for so long that I thought, "well if he is WAY over there then I can make a foul of myself and not have to worry about running into him"! LOL But it is not the same! I keep thinking of that book, "He's Just Not That Into YOu", which I am sure we ALL have heard of before! LOL But then again it was written by a man! LOL
If things work out and he and I can just simply be friends then that would be just fine with me! And safer as you say!
I have tried to get to know friends of friends but living in the part of the state I do take it from me the single men must be all locked in a barn some where and you have to know someone on the inside to get the key!! EVERYONE here is married or it is just not what I am looking for!
I never had this problem pre-kido! LOL
Single parent dating sucks! LOL
The only good thing about single parent dating is at least you have your daughter to come home to and give your love too. Not the same love we're all looking for but it's not as lonley I guess!
Hang in there. I found with my last bf that when I stopped looking, he was there. OK, so he turned out to be Mr. Wrong, lol, but I gave it a good run while I could. Now I'm back out there in that world of single parenthood like you looking for the keys to the Barn hoping not to find a horses arse, heehee.
Good luck and hang in there!
PATTY
~Dare to believe in yourself~
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