What Is Really His Reason?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
What Is Really His Reason?
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 6:54pm

Hi
I'm very confused right now. My boyfriend has seemed very distant lately. I asked him about why we haven't been spending as much time together and he said he really wants to, but there is a lot going on in his life making him busy. I know that he does work a lot but I can't even seem to get enough time in to really sit down and talk to him and I'm starting to feel alone. I feel that it's me he's trying to push out of his life and that he's just telling me he's busy as an excuse. I don't know for sure if his life is that hectic right now but I am very upset that I feel he is trying to cut me out. What should I do? Do you think that him saying he's always busy is just an excuse?

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:40pm
Honestly? Maybe or maybe not. In my experience, guys aren't generally that complex. Most of the time, if they truly want you out of their lives, they'll tell you, and most of the time, if they say they're busy and stressed, they are. Of course, there are exceptions. After all, we all know of men who have cheated and lied to string a woman along -- whether the reason is wanting to keep her AND another woman or simply to get whatever he wants from the relationship. If you don't have a very good reason to suspect that you boyfriend is a slimeball who doesn't care anything about you, give him the benefit of the doubt -- and tell him how you're feeling.