What to Say

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Registered: 03-11-2006
What to Say
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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 8:05pm

Hello I have been Friends with Benefits with this one guy for about 2 years but I find it hard to talk about us and what we are doing and what he thinks about us being us?
I would like to find a way to get that type of info out of him but in a way that isn't me going so is this going anywhere due to the fact that I am a little self conscious and am kinda afraid on what the answer would be? Any suggestion in getting any added info without being upfront about it so I don't get embarrassed if we are just friends with benefits:)

Thanks any suggestions would be appreciated:)

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 12:22am
FWB deals are common among people who want to enjoy sex and friendship without a serious committment. They get together, share time, go out, converse and have sex. However, they don't have the responsabilitites to the other like in a serious relationship They can date others and have GFs or BFs. The common thing is "sex". It seems that you do know what type of relationship you've had with this guy that has lasted two years, but, perhaps, want more out of it? Do you want to have more than sex with your guy? If you ask him directly "what are we? or "where is this heading fo?""...the answer will be the same...FWB. Asking indirectly may not be understood by him, as men get stuff that is direct, they don't get hints or else. If you want to know "where are you heading?" ask him directly. His answer may be the same you already know.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 5:09pm

Do you see each other on weekends and holidays? Does he take you out for your birthday, Valentine' s Day? Has he ever called you his girlfriend.


How often do you see him and is it just late at night? Has he ever talked about the future, or at least shown a true interest in your life? Two years is a long time. IF there was more to the relationship than this, wouldn't there be definite signs.

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