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| Fri, 07-28-2006 - 1:19pm |
I've sort of been a wreck since last Friday, and to be honest, I'm still not really sure why.
Things with guy that I've been seeing for just over 2 months now, have been going well. He always calls me at least twice a day; we make it a point to see each other at least once a week. We list our status as "dating exclusively".
Last week, we had an impromptu talk which came about because I noticed that he was being slightly cold with me that day, a few days after our 2 month mark (which I foolishly pointed out to him). He said that he wanted to "be cautious" with me, by refraining from doing things that would make it seem as though he wanted something more when that wasn't the case. (We haven't slept together yet, but we want to; We've just been having some fun during our "makeout sessions"). He's also said that he doesn't want to have "labels" at this point because he still wants his freedom to spend his time with his friends, etc.
Granted, I just got out of a three year relationship, so moving slow (as he wants) is great. I'm just concerned that he is afraid of committments. His last relationship lasted three months (ended in January), but from what he volunteered, his ex seemed to have destroyed him. He's never been in any other "long-term" relationships before.
He doesn't pursue me like he used to in the beginning. Is this because he's comfortable with me now??
On the other hand, his words/actions makes it seem as though he WANTS to be with me. So I'm confused.
I dont know whether I can bring this up to him again. I don't want it to seem as though I'm nagging him. But at the same time, I need for him to see that I'm not like that girl that he used to date; I just want to treat him right, and treat him like he deserves to be treated.
I don't even know if there *is* a problem; in all of my past relationships, things happened so quickly. Perhaps *I'm* not used to taking things slow...?
Someone, please help...I need to put my mind at ease...

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Sassygurl,
We're both 24.
Maybe...
We can talk more about that over email if you'd like though =)
I don't really want to shift the conversation away from my original question, as I really would like to get as many different opinions as I can
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