What should I do???

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Registered: 11-06-2004
What should I do???
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Sat, 11-06-2004 - 9:20am
I met this guy quite a month ago, and we have been seeing each other three times until now, which is, once a week, where we slept together and stayed two-three hour together; because each time he had to go to work to another city. He works on weekends too. But he has called me every day, twice a day, telling me that he loves me, I'm the sweetest girl he's ever met etc....But I'm a little confused, I mean, I don't know much about him, I have met him only im my place, I haven't seen his place, where he lives, why his cell is always switched to the answering machine....Two hours in a week is so little time for us, and he says he has two works and we can't meet during the week. He has told me that he has been engaged and has two children, who live with their mom in Europe...Well, on one hand I was pleased that he was honest with me..But, I'm not sure about this relationship..When we are together It's great, kissing..cuddling..Then we break apart for a whole week...I mean, he wants to see me today and I'm not convinced what to do !!! SO, PLEASE, I NEED YOUR ADVISE...(I'm 28 and he's 32)
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 6:13pm
Elen,

If you are saying that you only see him at your place for two hours and you sleep together, you don't see him on the weekends, you have never seen his place and when you call his cell always goes to his answering machine.... I see quite a few red flags here. Also, the fact that you don't know him very well and he is telling you already that he loves you, although you may think a good sign, could also be another red flag. He might be seeing someone else and is coming to see you at your place only for the sex. I am not trying to sound harsh, believe me but don't you wonder what he's up to? The fact that he can't see you often because he has to work is kind of a lame excuse. Most men work and find time to see their girlfriends. I think this guy has a whole other life going on. You need to point blank ask him what is going on... I would do it in person too and gauge his reaction. If he doesn't look you in the eye, he might not be so honest as you claim. Good luck. Lucy