what should i do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
what should i do?
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Sun, 09-12-2004 - 7:46pm
So i went out to a local small club last night solo. I was just relaxing and sitting at the bar for a bit and struck up conversation with the "HOT" waitress. Whenever she walked by me, i caught her looking, so when she stopped right next to me, i struck up conversation with her. It was about a 5 minute convo with me asking her all the questions. I had her laughing and smiling alot, but she didnt ask one question about me, but i still caught her looking every now and then through out the night.

Now today i was browsing through some personals and seen her profile!!! :)

Everything i asked about herself was what she had in her profile and yes it was her!

Now should i go head and respond to her profile or wait a few days? What should i say? "you look familiar"?? This was weird because i just met this girl last night to run into her profile

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 8:16pm
It is possible that the waitress was entertained and smiling at you to get a tip that night at the club. Perhaps, she didn't ask any questions because she wasn't interested in you particularily. However, you could try one more time in another setting to see if things go your way. Respond to her profile and see if she remembers you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 11:01pm
If I'm interested in a guy, I'll ask him questions about himself...it shows him that I'm interested in knowing more about him and it also gives me a better indication if my interest is going to be more than just face value (first impressions).

I'd just go back to the bar and say you'd seen a profile that looked like her and ask if it was. Of course, do you match the criteria she's after? ;-) The reason I'd go back rather than replying on line is because it gives her a second non committal chance to 'review' you and you get to do the same as well.

I think I'd be a bit disconcerted if a guy who'd talked to me in a bar suddenly sent me an email from my online profile. No matter if it was a coincidence or not, I'd still be like 'ok how'd he find out?'. Ya know?

I am a little worried that she didn't show any real interest in you, but if you go back a second time, she might be more inclined to get to want to know you further.

Let us know how you get on?

Good luck.

Eve :-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 11:48pm
yeah i do meet her criteria. I dont want to be like the rest of the other bar guys and jock her in the club.Im sure she gets it all the time, and That's how she'll see me. I wouldnt send her an email so fast. I would wait a week or 2 then send her something like "you look familiar, wanna chat"
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 12:54am
Hmmm....you have a point...but I wouldn't wait more than a few days....you never know who's getting in touch while you're contemplating it.

I did that and stuffed up. I saw a profile I was interested in, the guy said to contact him, I waited too long and now his profile is down and I can't get in touch. I'm kicking myself over it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 9:39am
ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

maybe she couldnt engage in a longer conversation b/c she was working. there's a possibility...