What Should I Do?

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Registered: 08-22-2004
What Should I Do?
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:47am
I'm trying hard to get over this one guy who I really really like. We've had a history of about 7 months. It was nothing too serious, but to me it meant alot. Hes trying to get back together with his ex and it seems like things are working out. Although he still talks to me and sometimes leads me on, I have a feeling he loves her. I love him too, and still want to be with him but I dont want to hurt myself. How can I get over him? Please give me some ideas, I would love to get over him and find happiness.
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Registered: 08-21-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 5:45am
Sweetie, been there done that. I know that what I'm about to say may seem shallow, but guys do it all of the time.....get more guy friends to take your focus off of this one guy. Sure, it may seem like you are just surpressing your feelings towards your the guy that you really want, but this is healthier than having your feelings/heart go for an emotional rollercoaster. Simply stated, the more time that you spend with a different party of the opposite sex, the easier it will be to deal with those feelings that you are not able to express with that guy you are longing for. You will eventually build a new friendship and maybe even a new relationship with someone that is available and interested in you. Be strong and move on sweetie. So much easier said than done, but don't try it alone, get some guy friends in the mean time and go and have some fun. Allow yourself to see past your situation and move towards building new memories w/someone else.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:03pm
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Registered: 07-15-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 4:43pm
Let him go. If he comes back (100% -- not this half-way stuff) then it was meant to be. I know it sounds trite, but you are wasting valuable energy on this guy right now. If he can't give you 100%, then he has no business contacting you. He must know how you feel about him -- it's cruel, what he's doing. You deserve much better than this. He is being indecisive and immature -- he needs to make a decision and stick with it -- right now he's trying to have his cake and eat it too, and you're enabling him to do that. I know - easier said than done - but really think about the big picture here. Do you really want to be with a man who you suspect is also still in love with his ex-girlfriend? What kind of relationship could that be?

Good luck!