What Should I Do?

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Registered: 07-15-2004
What Should I Do?
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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:12pm
I broke up with my boyfriend of two years last december because I felt overcrowded by him. So its been a while since we broke up and in the meantime I have dated people and he and I talked, but he always told me he wasn't over me and it hurt him every time I talked to him. Well he told me last month that he could possibly move to Ohio at the end of the month and I called him at the beginning of this month and his number was changed and I have no way of getting a hold of him and he didn't tell me he was gonna change it. Now all of a sudden, I'm having second thoughts about him. Finally realizing its over and I don't want it over. I'm currently already in a relationship that sometimes I'm not sure if I really like the guy or not, but we've been together for two months. And at the same time I'm really starting to miss my ex. I don't know what this means and what to do. What should I do?
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 11:18pm
Can't have your cake and eat it too....desicions, desicions, desicions. Theyre hard but you have to make them. Since you broke up with your ex and now wnat him back..think why was it over? Were you happy or unhappy? Were your needs met? Are you afraid of lossing contact with him? Count it all and decide if you really want him back. Now, your bf...is this new relationship fulfilling? Are you happy with him, miserable? What could be the causes? Think deeply and don't throw away something that could be good for you. Apparently, you're missing what you had with this ex now that's he's gone, but do you really want him back?
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 2:08pm
No offense here, but you need to step out of the dating scene for awhile and get your thoughts straight, it was confusing just to read your post. You are with someone that you don't even know if you like them? You are still
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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 2:15pm
i think i have to agree with the first response to you - do you really want the ex back or is it because his attn is gone? Its something Ive been thru before. And its natural to miss someone when they are gone. I assume you and the X are buddies or friends,and you'd miss a friend if they left. But def figure out your heart and thoughts before going after the X.

The guy you are with now, just keep things light. I dont think you have to stop dating - just be honest with yourself and the guy you are with.

Things just arent perfect in dating or RS.... so just do the best you can and lead with your heart

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 3:41pm
I would give your ex time to get ahold of you again. If he was telling the truth about wanting to be with you and it hurting him every time the two of you talked, he will contact you! As for your current boyfriend...if it has been only two months and you're already have doubts about the relationship and your feelings for him it wouldn't be a good idea to let it continue..it could make you miserable and could be misleading for him. I wish you the best of luck :)

DesiRae