what should i do now?

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Registered: 10-16-2003
what should i do now?
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:42pm
Hello to all,

I don't know if you remember but i wrote the disscusion about " what's this guy's game?" He would never return my calls. any ways i decided not to call him. i haven't call him since. yesterday he call me and i didn't pick up. he didn't leave a message. I'm not sure if i should call him back? should i let him call me again then pick up. or should i return the call. I'm thinking i shouldn't cause if i do it's going to start all over again.
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:53pm
Your situation is sort like the same thing that happened to me. This guy I was dating didn't return my call for three weeks and just when I was ready to throw in the towel he calls and says he wanted to get back in touch because he hadn't heard from me in a while. He acted like I never called him 3wks ago. I was surprised by the message because I wasn't even thinking about him anymore. I really did like him too but I have to play it smart and not let him think that he can have me whenever he wants me. So I say, don't call him back. If he really wants to talk to you then he will call you again.
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:04pm
I really agree with you. thank you for your advice
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:11pm
If he calls again then pick up and ask him what exactly does he want from you. if he is playing games then let him play by himself.

You're totally welcome about the advice!

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 9:24pm
kster79,

I had the same situation as yours. The guy I am dating did not call me after the first date 3 weeks after that. I was about to decide to let him go. Then he called and invited me out. I gave him the second chance and agreed to go out with him again. Thing comes back.....he has not called me for 3 weeks. Is he acting wierd? I can't understand him. What am I going to do if he calls me again? I am thinking that I will go out with him b/c I am still interested in him, but will act like friends, not dates anymore to give him a hint that he did something wrong in the relationship. Do you think so?

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 2:39am
Guys can be pretty dense - he may not even notice cool behaviour from you on a date.

Guys can also be real unaware of the passage of time. I agree, when I like a guy, it's hard to wait, and not have weekly plans to count on, but what's wrong with seeing someone else in between?

Just my thoughts.

Good luck!

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 9:08am
we have been going out for 7 months now. I 've met his daughter, brother and father he has met family too. I just thought it was wierd for him not to return my calls. well after not calling for about a week he call this morning. wanted to know what i 've been up to and would you beleive he was a little bit irrtated that i haven't been calling him. and even more mad when i told him i was in conneticut for the weekend. did he think i would sit around and wait for his phone call. I tried to change the subject when he starte asking me all those questions about who did i go with , and what was my purpose for going but he wouldn't have it. He said that if we're together then he should know what i was doing then he said what if it was him that went away i would want to know. he started going on about if i met anyone I said no then he said "and attractive woman like you how come you didn't meet anyone?" what is going on in his head. after all he was the one not returning my calls that's why i stopped calling him. men are weird. what should be my next step? is it clear that he wants to continuine this relationship?
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 4:25pm
rabitjoin,

So you went on a second date with him and he didn't call you after that for 3wks again? If that's the case it sounds like he is not sure what he wants to do about the two of you yet. And also since you guys are just starting out he might be taking things as seriously as you. I'm sure he's interested but not as interested as you so you should definitely keep your options open. If he wants to hang out again then fine because you still are interested but don't try to fool yourself into thinking that he is as serious about you as you are him.