What should I say?

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Registered: 04-21-2007
What should I say?
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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 7:47pm
I just started dating this great guy. I have never had such an amazing first date. We seemed to click immediately. We've seen each other a few more times and have been talking on the phone. I can feel myself falling for him fast. Here's the problem...he just told me today that he plans on moving home to Minnesota this June (we're in Vermont). I tried talking to him, but he says that traveling is his calling. We're not that serioius yet, so I don't feel like I can ask him to stay. What should I do?
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 8:29pm
That's too bad, because it sounds like you like him alot. You can either look at this as a spring fling and say goodbye in June with smiles or you can stop seeing him if you feel your emotions will get the best of you. I wouldn't ask him to not move again. Who knows, maybe he'll ask you to move home with him. But I wouldn't bank on it. Don't date him with the expectation that he will ask you to move home with him.
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Registered: 04-21-2007
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 10:17pm
So after thinking about my problem for a couple days, I had an "aha" moment and decided that I would keep dating this guy, and at least have a good couple of months. I was thinking that if things did progress well, he might decide to come back to VT, or maybe I could travel with him(there's nothing keeping me here). I figured worst case scenario, we would say a friendly goodbye and we'd never see each other again. So I called him up today to see if he wanted to go out and he didn't respond. I texted him and told him my decision, and still no response. I don't know how to take this.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 10:01am
Maybe he'll get back to you later...or maybe he is having a problem with seeing you and dealing with feelings getting involved before moving....or...he lied about having to move and now doesn't want to face you. Some guys are nut cases. I don't know if you ever saw the movie Singles and in the beginning one of the women has a fling with someone who she thinks is from Europe (with accent) and has sex with him knowing he is leaving in the next day for home, only to bump into him at a club that same weekend talking at the bar with a woman. I hope it is the first case and you will hear from him later.