What should I think

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Registered: 03-11-2004
What should I think
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 4:27pm
I posted this on the 20-something Hangout but I thought I might get a different response on this board.

I am new here. I have currently gotten out of a four year relationship. I have not been single in quite awhile and I need help.

I met this guy in the gym. We talk everyday and I really thought that he was kind of into me. (I am kind-of into him) He had burned a CD for me and we were talking about it and I just said hey do you want to hang out sometime? He said "We'll see." then he asked if I was going to this local bar that I go to on Thursday's? He said that he was going.

Can somebody tell me what that means. It is like he turned me down and then turned around and asked me out. What should I do? Should I go tonight? Can someone help me with what he is thinking???

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 7:54pm
deena33 - thank you for your reply. I am going to have to remember to edit my post before I send them. I know that he did not ask me out and I never said anything about being a girlfriend. I am sure that it was not your intention to make me feel stupid but you did.

I was just saying it seemed strange that he said "We'll see" about hanging out and then in the same breath told me where he was going to be tonight and asked if I was going. I am not an idiot and I have dated before just not in awhile. I was just wanting some thoughts on how to read this guy - I thought that I knew but I guess not because from the way he acts when we are at the gym I thought that he was interested in getting to know me better.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 8:43pm
My point was that for me, until a man asks me out on a proper date I give little relevance to flirting or other "signs" that he may be interested - I keep that off the radar screen and live my life - some men just like to flirt, some don't mean to be more than just friendly but come across as flirty, some men just like to see how many women they can have be interested in them - trying to read signs is unproductive and unless and until he asks you out I would just be friendly and approachable.

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