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what shouldn't I do
| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 10:35am |
I have not gone out on a real date in 7 years. I will be shortly with a guy who is a few years younger than me. I am so out of practice - just want advice about what I should/shouldn't do. Who pays, kissing on first date, etc.
Thanx

He pays.
Only give a good nice kiss.
And for the love of God, no sex on the first date! For that matter, no sex for a loooong time.
I am going to assume you are going out to dinner for the date. Did he ask you out on this date? if so he pays. If you asked him, you should be prepared to pay, but don't force it. Let him pay is he offers.
It's okay to kiss him goodnight if things go well and you feel comfortable, but don't let it progress into something that could go beyond that. And remember, you don't owe him anything. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Even if you want to see him again.
Let him open doors for you and pull out you chair when you go to sit down. He might not do that, but don't be too much of a "modern woman" that you don't allow him to be a gentleman. I find that puts most men off.
Appearance is important. You need to look like yourself so he can better understand who you are. If you don't normally wear a ton of makeup, don't wear a ton for the date or he'll get the wrong impression of you. You need to be comfortable. If you're constantly thinking about how much your feet hurt because you wore those painful, but beautiful high heels, your date won't get the attention he deserves. The point is, be your normal self so that you can be comfortable and focus your attention on him, instead of your discomfort.
This one is my personal dating rule for a first date. Stay away from appetizers. It's too early in the date to know if things will go well, and then you'll be forced to stay there longer until dinner is finished. If things go well, you can always order desert or go out for a drink afterwards.
Lastly, have fun, relax and be yourself. You'll do great, I'm sure of it. Let us know how it goes. Hopefully I helped you, these are just my personal dating rules!
Don't go back to his place, even if you know him well and know he's "safe". Not only should you NOT have sex for a loooong time, you should also avoid being alone with him where you might get "hot and heavy" and forget yourself.
Have fun! Good luck!