What a situation!
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What a situation!
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 4:13pm |
Let me begin at the beginning. When I first met this guy we were friends, until I went over his house one night and he thought I was there to give him a**. He was in for a rude awakening, because as soon as he attempted to jump me I left. I had no intentions of doing anything, because I only saw him as a friend. Months after that he had very little to say when we saw one another. Recently we have become friends again, and started out to movies, dinner, etc (like we used to do). This past weekend he tried it again. I was shocked, but I played along with it, until he went for the goodies. That's when I kissed him. I did that because I felt like two people can play this game. Do you know he backed away, like he was sacred or something. Like what I did was totally unexpected (and it was). He looked like a deer in the headlights. I think I really did scare him. I talked to him yesterday. I asked him what was that all about that night, and why did he act the way he did. He had nothing to say and no explaination. Has anyone ever seen a situation like this!?

Mmmm...yep, playing games works so well!
You didn't like what he did the first time, you didn't like it the second time, so you TEASED him and he probably figured it out. You both need to take responsibility for bad behaviour, IMO.
If you guys respected each other a little more and actually COMMUNICATED whether you want a friendship or a relationship, you'd be less likely to get yourselves into awkward and uncomfortable situations like this.
I'm not sure what advice you're looking for ... all I can say is that friends don't "play" this way with each other. You might want to re-consider this friendship with him. Or, just be honest with him about your intentions. If you want to date him, let him know that. If you want to be just friends, don't play around with kissing, etc. Nothing good can come of that. Seems to me that he's just trying to see what or how much he can get away with, and when you dangled the goodies, he was surprised but not willing to cross the friendship line.
Good luck.