What went wrong???

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Registered: 03-10-2004
What went wrong???
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:33pm
A couple of months ago I met this guy online. We talked everyday and sent each other text messages for a week. We told each other embarrassing stories from our childhood as well as recent ones. Finally after a week and a half he asked me to go out with him. I agreed (We met in a public place). We met and pretty much hit it off right away. He even sent me a text message from the bathroom telling me he liked me (lol. Silly I know lol) anyhow. We held hands we took a walk then he kissed me. I know it was the first date, but things were going really well between us. Well things continued to go well for a couple of weeks until I went to his house. On the 4th date I went over his house and he showed me around his house leaving his room for last. We made out and one thing led to the other and we had oral sex. After that things just started going down hill really quickly. We continued to talk on the phone daily but the dates started to go farther and fewer in between. I am just wondering what it could have been that went wrong. I expressed my concerns to him but he assured me that there was nothing wrong, yet his actions speak louder then his words. I am not trying to get him back but more like learn from my mistakes so I don¡¯t repeat them. If you can give me some insight on what may have happened that would be great. Thank you all
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 2:11pm

It sounds like he was looking primarily for sex, and once he got at least oral sex, he moved on.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 2:16pm

Hello evey, welcome to the board!


As much as I would like to tell you what went wrong... I can't. And, I doubt that anyone else here can either... we can only surmise... The fact is, the only one who knows is the guy you were with.


But, for some reason he has decided that his feelings have changed. Whether that is due to sexual chemistry (or lack of it) or not is something that only he knows.


But, what YOU know is that it has changed, for whatever reason. Don't agonize over it - just go on... I can tell you this, everyone is different and what doesn't appeal to one will to another. If he has taken this approach (or retreat, if you will) you simply cannot fix it and to spend time trying to will be futile.


tg