what will he do next?
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what will he do next?
| Tue, 11-16-2004 - 11:42am |
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago (hes young and doesnt want the responsibliity of a gf, its not about another girl) and he still calls and I went with him to his family party on saturday. anyway, i realized that i am not getting what i want so i told him enough is enough, i dont want to talk anymore for real this time. i need to move on just as he said. his ideal would be to talk to me every few days and hang out once a month or whenever he wants. he was controlling everything. i told him im better than what hes giving me and i dont deserve to be treated like a puppet. i told him hes completely a different person to me bc i would have never expected him to treat me the way he is. he doesnt even realize what hes doing but the fact is i dont want to be his friend. i need him out of my life right now, which i am going to try out. i obviously cannot cave in this situation bc this was ultimately my decision to end the casual talking. in your opinon or from your experiences, do you think that he will end up calling? we've been broken up for a month and the longest hiatus of speaking was only about 3 days. what do you think will happen? I need some kind of answer bc I obviously want him to call.

I don't understand. You've basically have told him to get lost yet you want him to call you. What's your motivation here? Are you trying to assert control? Are you trying to beat him into the shape and form of a man that you want? Do you want him to behave like your personal puppet?
If he has any self-respect and personal integrity, he will never call you again.
You say you don't want him to call but you really do. Why are you playing games? Why don't you say what you mean and stick to it? If you want to be friends with him then be friends, if you want a relationship then tell him that you want a relationship and not to be friends, but don't play both sides of the fence in some game of chicken as to who will break first.
Make up your own mind as to what you want. Unless he calls to say I want a relationship with you, then I wouldn't take his calls or I'd change my phone number.