what women notice when meeting men?
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| Sat, 08-07-2004 - 6:11pm |
When a man notices a woman in a club, his imagination takes over. In most cases, it does not matter what she is wearing. For men, imagination creates anticipation and the hope of participation! This is the reason topless dancers are fully dressed when they perform their first stage dance.
When a woman notices a man, however, rarely are her initial thoughts sexual in nature. She is more likely to notice him because he looks like a man who can take care of himself physically, emotionally and financially. He looks like he can handle most of life's challenges.
When men notice a woman in a club or bar, two thoughts immediately cross their minds:
1- What she would look like naked;
2- What she would be like in bed.
When women notice a man, three thoughts usually cross their minds:
1- Does he look like he has a job?
2- Does he look like he has a good job?
3- Does he look like he can hold a good job long enough to benefit them?
Perhaps this explains why men feel they are being subjected to a 10-point physical examination and financial analysis when they ask a woman to dance.
men look, women see
Contrary to popular belief, women are more visual than men. They are conditioned to see what they want to see, without staring or being obvious. Men admire; women inspect. A woman may decide she is interested in a man before she has caught his eye or gotten his attention.
Men notice contours and curves. Women notice form and structure. They also notice men's eyes, hands, teeth, smile, and class. Women who are more interested in a man's qualities notice men who are honest, outgoing, confident, and have style, intelligence, a sense of humor, and class. These men are perceived as likable, friendly and genuinely interested in others. They develop and maintain a wide range of personal contacts.
Women use their eyes to communicate interest in a man. Men, on the other hand, will usually avoid eye contact with a woman they are interested in.
Although women say they don't like a man to stare at their bodies, they literally melt when a man they might be interested in looks deeply into their eyes. The man who knows how to use his eyes to convey his interest in a woman will be more successful than the man who avoids looking directly into a woman's eyes. Exchanging eye contact is a critical stage of flirting and expressing interest. By not returning eye contact, you lose what could be a tremendous advantage.
eye confidence
What is the most effective way to look at a woman in a club or bar? You want her to see a sexy gleam in your eye. Look directly into her eyes, and as if you were going to hypnotize her, smile and think to yourself: "I like what I see." Although flirting with a woman should not be an obvious come-on, there is nothing wrong with thinking of her sexually when looking into her eyes.
Using your eyes effectively with a woman has a twofold purpose. First, you express your obvious interest in her. Second, you can observe and read what she is communicating through her eye contact. Looking away after establishing eye contact with a woman implies weakness. When you establish eye contact with her for the first time, let her break the look. You may be uncomfortable, but try it; it works!
Most women can tell if a man has cheating eyes, lying eyes, dishonest eyes, married eyes, wandering eyes, or sincere eyes.
If a man uses his eyes incorrectly, he may destroy his chances of successfully approaching a woman. Women are intuitive; they can sense if a man is desperate or confident by the way he looks at them.
If a man avoids eye contact, he sends a message that he lacks experience with women, is shy, or lacks confidence. If he stares too hard, he makes women uncomfortable. Men who haven't had much experience with women look at them in a lustful way. Men who have look at them in a confident way that says, "I can have you!" This is challenging to women.
Other than to see if he is wearing a wedding band, there are two other reasons women notice a man's hands. Some women equate the distance between the tip of a man's middle finger and the base of his hand, where the hand meets the wrist, with the length of his erect penis. Second, if a man's ring finger is longer than his index finger, purportedly, he has a high testosterone level. If his ring finger is equal to the length of his index finger, his testosterone level is average. If the ring finger is shorter than his index finger, his testosterone level is below average.
Men don't smile as easily and as often as women do. If a woman is happy or experiences feelings of joy, she smiles. Canvass a club on any Friday or Saturday night; you will notice very few men with smiles on their faces. Most of them look as if they really don't want to be there.
Average-looking people who smile often are more appealing than handsome men or beautiful women who don't smile.
A man's smile indicates that he is charming, optimistic, friendly, expressive with his feelings, likes what he sees, and, most importantly, that he is approachable. When we smile, our facial muscles stimulate our nervous system to produce a hormone called cerebral morphine. This hormone gives us a pleasant, calming feeling. It also has an anesthetic effect. Notice men who are always with women in a club. I'll bet you 10 to one they smile a whole lot.
Most men in nightclubs are just regular guys, according to women, but some men are classy. How do women define a man with class? Class is like a rainbow. Women don't know exactly how to define it, but they know it when they see it. A man with class has an aura about him. He carries himself in a way that just commands women's attention.
A man with class does everything with style. He is not ostentatious, however. He doesn't have to turn on his class. He is as interested in other people as he is in himself. He is able to humble himself. Most importantly, he treats all women with respect.
A man will remember four things after meeting a woman in a club or bar:
1- If he danced with her
2- If he kissed her
3- If he got her telephone number
4- If he had sex with her the night he met her
A woman will remember these same things as well after meeting a man. Women, however, also remember the following:
1- His initial approach
2- What he was wearing
3- If he was wearing cologne
4- His choice of beverage
5- If he was a gentleman
6- If and how he interacted with other men and women
7- If he made her laugh
good looks aren't everything
The belief that women only notice the most handsome or well-built men in a club is a myth. Men who dress to impress, are outgoing and friendly with others, and display a sense of humor are the ones who have the competitive edge, according to women who responded to my survey. This makes a lot of sense when you think about it.
Since clothes usually cover about 95% of a man's body, it is only reasonable to expect women to notice what you wear. As well, men who interact with other men and women don't seem desperate. Women follow and respond to their emotions. Laughter incites the emotion of joy, and women love to laugh. Keep that in mind the next time you find yourself in the company of ladies.
