what would you do?

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Registered: 08-30-2004
what would you do?
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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 9:47pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months. I am a first year medical student and he is a senior in college. We live an hour and a half away from each other. Last week he partied every night with his roommates and random neighbor girls. One day he couldn't even go to work because he had a hangover. He told me that he wouldn't be doing this if we were engaged which really leads me to believe it isn't all innocent. I have nearly reached the point of ending it. His friends think I am crazy. My friends think he is trying to have it both ways...single college girls during the week and a girlfriend on the weekends. What would you do? I have talked to him. The drinking will be less and he said he will avoid girls who come on to him but he will still party with them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lgsz68
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 5:16pm
Your friends are right. He wants to do exactly what he's doing and he's told you he will not stop. The 'drinking less bit' was meant to appease you. The 'we're not engaged' part means he is telling you that he's free to do whatever he wants, and the 'I will still party with them' means he'll do it with whomever he wants. Your relationship is not what you think/hope it is. You are his weekend girl, not his only girl, and the other woman is alcohol. Alcohol will likely lead him into the arms of his party girls, and his excuse will be 'I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing'. If that's not okay with you, end it.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: lgsz68
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 5:34pm
I'm going to agree here. He's immature and making up excuses. He wouldn't do these things if he was engaged? Right. So when you are engaged and he keeps doing these things, will it then be, "well, I woulnd't do these things if we were married"?

You know what the right thing to do is.

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