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|Mon, 07-22-2013 - 11:25pm|
I'm 40, separated from H for over 3 yrs, D is in the process. I have 2 kids under 10. Met a single nice guy also 40, 6 mo ago. Seeing each other regularily since then. I get to see him when I don't have the kids, almost every weekend. Very wonderful and affectionate. Very fun to hang with. Totally understands my situation, not rushing me into anything. Here is the problem, yes problems...
He says he looks forward to seeing me, but the day we are supposed to get together he makes me wait, goes out with his friends first and meets up with me later. I have raised concerns about it, says "if I wait all these days to see you, why can't you wait a few more hours."
He usually stays with me, but gets up in the morning and goes out and about then wants to "come home" to me. Either we just hang out at home or he takes me out somewhere. I have raised my concerns again, he says, "I have to wait all these days to be with you, but when I get to see you all at once its too much so I need a break."
When we are apart we don't talk much, just a few calls/texts, raised concerns about that too, says "when I talk to you I want to be with you, but I can't......"
I have met some of his friends, but did not introduce me as his GF, where all my girl friends think he is my BF and he acts like he is, as he has met all of them. I asked him when we were arguing the other day that I need to know where we stand, he said "I don't want to lose you, I like being with you, as a matter of fact I LOVE being with you". I asked him if he loves me he said "Yes" then I asked how come you never say you love me, he said "I don't want you to take advantage of me".
He likes to drink moderately, but when he gets tipsy, always picks a fight about little something, I have broke up with him a few times because of that, so now he is much better with drinking situation.
When we are actually together, he is very attentive, affectionate, caring, and all about me. So now.... what do I do???