What is wrong with this picture

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Registered: 04-15-2004
What is wrong with this picture
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 4:45pm
I have been single now for 18 months,up until 5 years ago never had problems with men,My ex now,we were together for 7 years.But 5 years ago we took some time apart,and I plunged back into the dating scene,I'm not super model georgeous but I'm not butt ugly either,and it seemed men were attracted to me and they had no problem asking me out.But the past 18 months I have men constantly looking at me but they will never approach.I have been trying the internet dating scene,but same thing there too,men will look at my picture and profile but never approach.I have had one man already ask me out and we have been out a few times and seemed to have clicked but now he seems to be pulling away.I have learned from past not to rush things and to be friends first but,I must be doing or not doing something right.Any body have this problem or advice? I could sure use some,right now because I'm about ready to give up.I'm 34 years old,single mother of 2 and I'm getting pretty lonely.I would like to maybe find that special someone and settle down someday.I have tried to approach men but they seem scared of me,lol ;). I have more male friends than female,but no luck.
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Registered: 04-15-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 9:38pm
I don't think you have a problem. I think it's all about timing. When I broke up with my boyfriend...it was TWO YEARS before I found the next guy. I just always had the position of, "It'll happen when it happens" and it finally did. I wasn't even expecting it or wanting it. I think it was just the perfect time for both of us. I've never been one to do a lot of dating...I think it's all about timing. Just because you want to meet someone doesn't mean it's going to happen. I think there's something to be said for patience. Not that approaching someone you find interesting is wrong. I think that's great. But only if you have the intention of just MEETING that person and not dating them. I think when the timing is right, your Mr. Right will walk right into your life...easily. I don't think these types of things take a lot of effort. I think they just happen whether you want them to or not. It's out of our hands! Who's to say your perfect match is in another country right now? Or perhaps ending a relationship and won't be available to you for another 6 months? Keep the faith. Sorry if that sounds flip, but I think there are PLENTY of men to go around!
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 3:11am
hi if i were you i would just relax and try to enjoy myself single is not all that bad even though sometimes it can feel like the end of the world but if you want to pass the time till you meet mr right i suggest going out by your self sometimes because when some one is alone they are alot less intimidating and easier to approach and you said you had alot of male friends so that sounds like alot of possibilities right there because friendship is always the best place to start so what your looking for may already be right in front of you and you're just not looking at it in the right way. but even if thats a bad idea your guy friends should know lots of other guys so there is some blind date potential if you like that kinda thing. but good luck