Whats the deal with this guy?!? Help!
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| Wed, 06-14-2006 - 1:22pm |
I broke up with my ex almost 3 months ago. We were breaking up for 6 months before it actually happened. About 3 weeks ago, my friends ( a married couple ), introduced me to a guy friend of theirs. I had heard about him from my ex from time to time and I was pretty interested. We stayed the last 3 weekends at our mutual friends house and slept in the same bed for the last 2 weekends. I have 3 kids, and I didn't know where I wanted it ot go or where he did for that matter. He's a really sweet quiet guy, not my type, but I really like him and everyone I know cant say anything bad about him. He's a cattle rancher so he works from day in to day out. He lives an hour and half away but he's been coming over every weekend since he met me. He even mentioned moving back over here and maiking the commute everyday. We finally slept together 2 nights ago. Usually I text him every morning and he calls before bed every night and on occasion has called in the middle of the night to see what I was doing, sleeping of course. Well I texted hmi yesterday morning and called him at lunch. He calls in the evenings and last night he didn't. I didn't call him because I dont want to push him. Itexted this morning and he hasn't called back. We are getting ready to have a tropical storm, maybe a hurricane and he could possibly be doing double time on the ranch, but I dunno. I really like this guy and he's 6 years older and he knows I have 3 kids. The weekend I met him, i had them, and the next wekeend trhey were with their father and then this past weekend, the paternal grandmother wanted them but I had my one year old with me. Is he scared of my kids. He doesn't have any and he knows my ex and doesn't say anyting about him he's quiet, but I know he doesn't care for him, he's a dead beat. Did he just get close to get to my ex? Is he scared to get involved with someone who has 3 kids, the oldest being almost 5 and the youngest just turning 1. I'm confused. He has never once not called me before bed except after we slept together. What do yall think of the situation? I'm only 21 and he's 28, we were gonna go out next weekend for my birthday, fathers day, I wouldn't have my kids all weekend and we had been looking forward to it. Should i make new plans, or give the guy a little longer to call? Help?

flcntrygirl11400...
PG isn't going to bother referencing the 3 children. They're probably adorable even though you kinda "rushed things" prior to your 21st birthday?
My best guess is that the 28-year old man....while he might love YOU like crazy....has no desire to 'acquire an INSTANT FAMILY!' Unless this gentleman is an absolute saint who had no apprehensions about loving ALL YOUR CHILDREN unconditionally...I think you're expecting A LOT!
You've grown accustomed to having children between the ages of 1 and 5 in your life, but I'll bet your 28-year old b/f isn't quite comfortable with the arrangement? Particularly if he's never had a wife or any children of his own...before he met you?
Pianoguy
If you just broke up with your ex 3 months ago and your ex knows your present boyfriend, I'd say you are getting way too involved too soon and with a guy your ex knows.
Honey what's the hurry? You are only 21 and have a lot of time to look around for another mate.
First get over your ex before you become involved with another man.
It isn't a good idea to allow your children to get introduced to a man whom hasn't committed to you. If your kids get attached to him, it will be like losing another father figure if it doesn't work out for you. You aren't the only one who will suffer, they will.
Go slow, you will found another in time. good luck
<< He said he tried to call the other night after i called but he only got 4 rings and he didn't have time to wait, I said i guess my caller id is broken because I didn't get any calls.>>
Hon, your caller ID isn't broken and you know that. He's feeding you a load of bull. Sorry, but that is one of the sorriest excuses ever ... he didn't have time to wait and leave you a voice mail? What would have happened if you had answered? He wouldn't have had time to talk?! Sorry, but you know as well as we do that he didn't call.
If you want to continue dating this guy, I wish you luck! He doesn't sound like he's worth your time ... certainly doesn't sound very considerate ... and he's a B.S'er at that.
My vote is ... there are other fish in the sea.