What's the deal with me and him?

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Registered: 11-11-2004
What's the deal with me and him?
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 2:53pm
i have been talking(seriously talk) with this guy for about 4 years now on and off. We've been in a relationship twice. We always come back to each other. Now he is the father of our first child together. the baby is due next month. we still aren't together, but he's always telling me that he loves me and he wants to be with me and only me. We talk everyday on the phone, and if we aren't on the phone we are together. Recently i found out he had a girlfriend on the side who he told me plenty of times was his cousin. That's when i realized why he kept stalling about us being together. He picked me up in her car lots of times without me having a clue, and he had her cell phone. Once i found out, a week later he told me he broke up with her, yet we still didn't start our relationship. Numerous of times i've still caught him with her phone and he says the same exact thing "i don't go with her". He says they are just friends now, and her brother and him just hang. We are always arguing now because i've lost majority of trust in him. There is more to the story but it's like i just wrote a novel. SHEESH!....what should i do...should i just leave him or try to work something out or what? i'm so fed up....but it's like when i'm around him...he makes me feel so perfect.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 4:28pm
You are having his baby and you haven't been around his family enough to know whether or not this woman is his cousin?

I think you should break things off and focus on you and your child, you have been off and and on for 4 years, that to me is plenty of time to figure out that you two are just not right for each other, if you were you wouldn't keep breaking up and he wouldn't be cheating. END IT ALREADY!

Your baby deserves better than this.