whats going on!?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2003
whats going on!?
2
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 11:13pm
ok i really like this guy and hes sweet and everything but he likes this other girl and we're always talking about her. His bestest friend moved away and they were really really close. They've known each other since they were 2 and well hes been crying alot and i've been doing a lot of comforting. I've always been there for him and i'm always staying up talking with him cause we like to talk. I told him how i felt and he said he wuld make it up to me. but he still hasnt. it's been almost a month and i just want to feel special for a day. I mean i dont mean to be selfish but i just want to have something back. We've gotten pretty close in the past month and we can always confide in each other but we dont even hug. I mean we say i luv you but is that enough? It makes me feel special but it fades away in a few seconds becuz its only in the friend way. i know how he feels about the girl he likes and hes always talking about her. When will he ever talk about me and how great i am? I mean he says i'm a great friend and everything but i just want to feel special for a day. Hes really sweet when people arent around but when people are around he acts different. We act like we're friends but we cant hug or say i luv you or just really talk. Do you think i should tell him how i feel or just wait till it blows over? (which i highly doubt) feel free to respond i'm waiting and reading;-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 7:33am
That a man confides in you does not necesarily mean he has a romantic attraction to you - it sounds like this man does not and if you are that into him I would back away so that you don't torture yourself more.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:22am
sometimes people are takers and they like givers like you. Right now you are satisfying his needs to talk and have someone 'there'...that's not to say that he wants to date you...you might be his rock and then watch him 'get better' and ask someone else on a date instead of you! You can't complain someone into wanting to be with you or fall in love with you so I don't see the point in having a talk with him. Your needs are not being met, only his...leave.


Edited 4/2/2004 1:27 am ET ET by downbythebay