What's going on?

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Registered: 06-04-2007
What's going on?
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Sat, 03-01-2008 - 2:38pm
Well,kind of long story Ill see how short I can keep it.
I started dating a guy that I hadn't seen in years. We went to school together but really were not friends then. It has been 12years since then. Anyway,we started talking to each other on Myspace back in the fall. He asked me out in November and we went on a few dates after that and all seemed to be going well.We talked online and on the phone several times a day. Before I knew it I was staying over at his place a couple of times a week. We both work odd hours so it might have been 3am but we still made the time to see each other. Fast forward to today. We talk maybe 1-2 times a week. I haven't spent any time with him in about a month. The last two times I saw him was when he stopped by my workplace. And today I called him and he seemed less than interested to talk to me.
A little background on him though: he's got three kids and is going through a divorce.Ive never met the kids. He had his kids today and seemed a little preoccupied so maybe that's why he didn't want to talk today,but it's never been an issue before. He just sounded irritated that I had called him. He is also turning 30 this weekend. He works very full time and also a full time college student. It's just a little weird to me because we used to make time to see each other when we could. I don't know if it's me or if he's just stressed out and I shouldn't take it personally. When we do talk and have a good conversation he is still very sweet and flirty and giving me compliments all the time so it doesn't seem that he's not interested.We both have this weekend off and even with his birthday I doubt we will see each other.
So anyway,I am just confused and wonder what's going on. I feel myself getting way to attached already and if it's fizzling out I just want to know so I can move on. I don't know how to ask him though. Any help would be appreciated.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 3:20pm

Hon, I'm sorry this has happened, but I think you need to just let it go.

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Registered: 06-04-2007
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 3:35pm
Thanks. I think I know all this, I just don't want to face the truth on this one. I knew it probably wouldn't work out,and that it would hurt when it finally got to this point-so I guess it's time to face it all now though. Thanks Again. :)
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 4:04pm

It is rough getting involved with someone divorcing who has so many things going on in his life.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 6:15pm

Hi Aunt Nenny,


Welcome to the board!!


I dated someone similar to you.

 
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Registered: 06-04-2007
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 6:23pm
Thanks everyone! I know I just need to ask him whats going on,it's just hard. :)
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Registered: 06-04-2007
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:20pm
Oh my gosh I have spent my whole weekend crying about this. I knew it was going to hurt when it seemed to be over but I didn't think it would be this bad. Everyone told me when this ends it's going to be bad because I haven't smiled so big before as when I was with or talked about him. I haven't heard from him all weekend and I haven't tried to contact him either. Part of me just wants him to know how bad this is killing me and the other part just says to hell with him. I absolutely hate dating!
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:48pm

An idea:

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 3:27pm

Sorry you had a bad weekend and that this hurts so much!!!


Hang in there you will make it through all of this.

 
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Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 9:07pm

Just read your posts and I'm so sorry you

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Registered: 06-04-2007
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 10:09pm
Thanks everyone. I am doing better today. One day at a time I guess. :)

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