What's his deal?
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What's his deal?
| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:55pm |
Ok so I met this guy on Myspace (never a good thing) but he was the college roomie of one of my college friends husband. So he messages me, we go back and forth for a few days, I give him my # Friday night so while I'm out with my girls he texts me to say have a good night and whatnot. So Saturday we're online chatting and he texts me what a great day it is. So he mentions that it would be a great day for a drive and dinner... at which point I ask him if that's a suggestion or an invitation - to which he responds "both" - so we meet up. He took me for a long drive to check out the foliage, talked for a long time, then he took me to dinner, we went for a walk on the beach at night, went out for coffee, then came back to my place to watch a movie... so we stayed up late, ended up messing around, had fun... 3am I'm about to go to sleep... and he leaves. Fine, i have to get up early in the morning so its not to weird. Tried messaging him Sunday, heard nothing, messaged him again midweek and got a 5 word response, then Friday night at 9pm he texts me and we end up talking on the phone for over an hour. He kept asking when I was leaving in the morning because I was going away.. not sure if he was looking for an invite but whatever.. So I message him Sunday to see if he wants to do dinner, finally Weds I call and leave a voicemail to ask again... Friday night I get a text saying "thanks for the invite, are you out tonight" - So i've had a few glasses of wine and I ask him over. We watch a movie, drink some more wine, mess around, he stays, fine. Now tonight I get a text saying "thanks again for the wine" and thats it. My friend says he's a really nice guy and he seems it but how come he doesn't ask me out? Or freakin call me back when I call him? I know he is a teacher so he's busy but it doesn't take forever to call someone back. He's probably just enjoying some action but he doesn't pressure me for sex, we just have a good time... is he just having fun? Should I ditch him for being a little unreliable? Or forgive him becaue he's busy. I don't expect him to stop everything and call me but just a "hey, won't have time to do dinner this week but maybe another time" ... I don't know what to do... any advice?

He may well be a nice guy, but it sounds like he wants a casual, "hang out" type of relationship where he doesn't have to take you out again, and where you do all the work (it sure seems like you are contacting him way more than the other way around). If you're ok with that, then that's cool, but if you want more of a dating relationship, he's probably not your guy.
Sheri