What's his game?

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Registered: 06-27-2013
What's his game?
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Thu, 06-27-2013 - 5:10pm

Right so, there's a guy who lives in the same area as me, we have loads of friends in common etc. but were never particularly friendly ourselves.  We became friends on fb and he started chatting to me on there, we eventually swapped numbers and always chatted if we seen eachother out.  His friend and my friend have sort of been dancing around eachother and last weekend me and the boys were in the same bar, I know the other fella quite well but we all were hanging out at the end and went out and up to some food places together where we met my friend, the other girl.  We ended up all sitting chatting for hours and shared a little kiss with our respective boys.  My fella still texts every day and when I was out a night he wasn't as he had work he stayed up and was messaging me at 3am seeing how I got on, only thing is he hasn't asked me out or anything, I was getting all the signals, so I thought, I can't even accuse tbh I'm not is it just mates he wants to be or something more at all.  I have a lot of guy friends so I'm used to that but just I was feeling a different vibe from him and if I'm honest I have a wee crush.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2013
Thu, 06-27-2013 - 5:14pm
*accuse him of being after one thing
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 06-27-2013 - 9:29pm

Ok, it's funny how we speak the same language supposedly, but just a little different way of expressing things.  I wish I could hear the Irish accent, cause I love that--wish I could import an Irish man.  lol

Anyway, it would appear for now that the guy just wants to be mates--he texts you & talks with you when you're out, but he hasn't asked you to do anything with him.  I'd say that a man who is interested would arrange something so you could be alone together.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 06-28-2013 - 12:26am

In a situation like yours, you WANTED to feel a different vibe......you "read" his vibes the way you wanted them to be, but it seems like the "crush" is very much one sided.  Of course, you could always just talk to him and maybe even suggest something to do on your own without all the mates.  He'll say yes, or he'll say no, and you'll know for sure if those vibes you felt were real or imagined.  Good Luck to you.