what's in his head?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
what's in his head?
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Thu, 11-23-2006 - 4:34am

in advance thanx for reading

ok here it goes. I've been dating this guy for like 3 months now. but whenever we went out there was absolutley no touch, I mean ABSOLUTLY no touch between us. maybe sometimes we sat pretty close in a taxi but that was it.

but I was sure that he was interested 'cuz I almost never intiated any dates or whatever. at first I thought ok, he's not a jerk who would want to heavy pet me all the time.

then last week he invited me to his house (he was permenantly living with his parents since first we met until then) & I went there & no touch, no kiss, no nothing. I was even scared to sit close to him while watching tv, I was scared if he pulled himself back.

then came the time to sleep & I thought what the hell should I do? (there was just one bedroom & one bed!) & he said ok let's sleep & he meant we should sleep beside each other! & I nagged a little that he shouldn't snore or these things.

& we laid down beside eachother, almost dressed, we talked for like 2 hours, we laughed & had a good time & then there was moment that I said I felt cold ( I really did) & he said come to my arms & I did & we softly & kindly started kissing & one thing led to another & we ended up having sex, 3 times!

it definitly felt good & compassionate & really sweet. but my question is that was everything just arranged that way in his head? so that we "sleep" beside each other & well sex is just part of it??? or did he really feel something & then it started.

as for my part, I really wanted that 'cuz I really wanted to be close to him 'cuz I'm really into the guy!

now what's your opinion?

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Registered: 11-26-2006
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 12:55am
I think maybe he is uncomfortable in public situations. I find myself uncomfortable with public affection until I have been with the person for a while and then it is still only holding hands and light kisses.
Morrigan
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 8:52am
I would guess was that he arranged the date so you would sleep in the same bed and potentially have sex. If he didn't want to have sex with you he would have slept on the sofa and offered you the bed.