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What's the Next Step?
| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:37pm |
I've been single for a year and half... and haven't been on one date since. I've changed my environment, my job, am even going back to school next week and will be joining a health club next month. But - nothing. I haven't even been approached by a man in the this time. So now, I'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore... I'm no longer paying attention to my appearance; I've visibly gained weight; and I'm exhausted with everything. I have no interest in internet dating or speed dating or singles organizations. Could it be that the heartbreak I experienced is enough, and the devastation to my self-esteem that occured afterwards, is enough to cripple me permanently in terms of the dating world? For the love of God, I don't even know how to flirt anymore...

Perhaps your objectives are a little misguided. One pays attention to their personal appearance due to personal pride and a willingness to project a positive demeanor, not to impress men.
Quit putting so much pressure on yourself to be dating and all coupled up. We all experience heartbreak at one point or another, but many of us do some introspection on what went on and how we can do things differently in the future, so it should be a growth experience. You have much going on with your life, new job, new environment, back to school and an exercise program. Give yourself a break and quit expecting yourself to take on a new relationship on top of everything else.
Once your life gets stabalized, you will be ready to get back to dating if this is what you want.