What's wrong with me?!

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Registered: 10-19-2004
What's wrong with me?!
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Sun, 10-24-2004 - 11:31pm
I'm fed up with being single! I don't think there's someone out there for me and I think since I've been a teenager I've known deep down that I'll never get married. Guys just don't generally like me. Well, at least any that I'm interested in. I'm attractive, a bit shy, hilarious, giving, family oriented, employed and have two degrees in higher education. I know I have a lot to offer someone. I'm also picky but feel I have to be in order not to settle for the life that my mom has led with men. (bad luck!) I'm too old for the bar scene and just moved to a new town where I've just started making friends. My social life is so frustrating. I really just want to cry. I've given up praying that someone special will be brought into my life because I've been let down so many times. NO ONE that I have ever liked has ever felt the same. Even in high school and college where I was a cheerleader, class president, in a sorority, on homecoming court....I was never asked out. I'm not kidding either. I had to ask someone to my own prom and to my sorority functions. Guys never took me to movies, their formals, etc. I'm too shy to just go up to guys and ask them out, but not too shy to talk to them and show them my personality and sense of humor. They just never seem to see it. Does anyone have any advice for me?

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Registered: 10-24-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 7:05am
there is nothing wrong with you... thats the first thing you have to remember... im sure your all that you say you are and more... it seems as if men today are much too complicated... they say they arent, but we know better... lol... my advice to you would be to "just be who and what you are"... ya know?... all the things that youve heard a thousand times... all the old sayings... "love yourself", blah blah blah... you dont need to hear them all over again... as far as the confusion you feel, try and let it go... its not helping you and only causing you more anxiety as to what you "feel" is wrong with you... may i make another suggestion?... go for a makeover for yourself... treat yourself... new hairstyle, new hair color, new clothes, whatever!... im not implying that you arent lovely, just go for something more "bada bing"... lol... your in a new place now, so you can start all over again, with a new attitude... also, think outside of the box... maybe some of the men you are turning down that like you are potentials... you never know... and who would it hurt to spend time with someone who is interested in taking you out?... good luck... and dont stop praying... lol...
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 12:39pm
This is elvis in silence

hmmm...well...actually i dont know but it seems that a guy would like to dream of a gurl that has certain qualities...she definitely needs to know the game to play...unfortunately it has become a game...its not a friendly thing...a guy wud take out a gurl exclusively if he knows shes playing the game and not a friend...that means that she plays...not that freindly smile and attitudue...but that animal and naughty attitude...hmmm and then the guy would get the message that u want to be seen as a loveable object..and then he would start seeing u like that...not a friend...and then romance comes in to action...hmmm...if a gurl doesnt give that message that she wants to be looked at as a loveable object...then guys would hardly think of her in romantic thoughts...yup...so try to learn those tricks and act as if u r queen and need a lot of love to live..then guys would drool to love u...we like to do that...yeah gives us someone to play the game...got it?

elvis
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Registered: 10-24-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 1:23pm
first rule... know the rules of the game... second rule... forget the rules because they always change... lol... only rule... dont play games!... if you dont know the rules, then dont play the game... soooooooooo mr elvis... theres not much else to say... why cant everyone be and say who they are and what the hell they want?... as i said, you men have become too damn complicated for me...

hey!... ive spoken to elvis!... lol...
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Registered: 10-19-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 8:39pm
See, we girls play out the scenarios in our heads of what we want to happen. I think guys are clueless. Why can't men just behave exactly the way we want them to, dangit!?? :)