When Is A Date, A Date?
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| Fri, 08-25-2006 - 2:05pm |
And when is it just two friends hanging out?
My boyfriend was invited to a corporate event by his ex-fiancee. They were together a long time and have been friends for almost 20 years. He considers her a close friend and thought nothing of accepting the invitation. I confronted him and told him that he could not be her 'surrogate boyfriend' anymore and that it's not appropriate for him to accept these kinds of invitations. He keeps insisting that it wasn't a date - which I'm sure is true in his own mind - but I think this situation has certain aspects of impropriety, even if it wasn't a "romantic date."
Please check my reality!
1)Would you have considered this a date? Why?
and
2) Is my annoyance justified or am I just another possissive girlfriend? Why?

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Well, ok for you, those are dates. For me (and I don't think I'm the only person in the world who feels this way), if I invited a guy to one of those events, it wouldn't be a date, not without an expectation or hope of romance. I might jokingly refer to the guy as my "date" in those circumstances, but it would clearly be a joke or only sarcastic/ironic. He might be my so-called "date" but that still doesn't mean it's a date!
I'm just saying it's not unreasonable to not think of it as a date. I don't and I think I'm a very reasonable person ;-).
But are the semantics of it really what you're concerned about? I think the point is, was it cool of him to go with her under the circumstances, whether or not you call it a date. That's why I'm urging you not to get hung up on being right on the semantics as far as your BF is concerned.
Sheri
Ok. So was it cool for him to go under the circumstances?
I vote no. But I'm the girlfriend LOL
(Thanks, I was trying to get to this point by chasing my tail.)
Yikes! Thankfully that's not the case here!
My question is though... was it ok for him to go to a shindig with his ex?
(I was not and could not be invited).
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