when to define the relationship?
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| Mon, 05-28-2007 - 7:06pm |
I'm having some trouble on determining when to define the relationship...i feel like this is really important for me cause in college, there can be a lot of grey area/ assumptions about the seriousness of the relationship
My boy and I first kissed late march...flirted and kissed for the next month, i met his frat brothers, etc, then we started sleeping together the last three weeks of school, I met his family when they came to move him out (spent about 2 hours helping them pack/ he never met mine cause he moved out earlier than me), we've gone to dinner, soccer games, parited, hang out sober a lot,he's met my friends...but then summer came around...
He's a shy kid, but seemed to be opening up to me at the end of the semester, very affectionate in bed....and will kiss me in public/ hold hands/ invites me along with chill with just him and his guy friends...but gets a little stunned if i call him babe or hun which is odd...
oh and another odd thing...he took single off his facebook (he has no relationship status now) with out asking me or telling me...one of my friends noticed (i'm married to one of my best girl friends)....should i bring that up?? that was right before we started sleeping together that he removed that
and he introduced me to his parents as "this is jackie...i told you about her, we went to formal together"
he's called every 3 or 4 days since school's let out...but we're both pretty busy with internships/ vacations, etc
when do i ask him if he's officially my boyfriend?? should i wait till fall and see how things are when we're back at school??

Okay, first I'm confused. You are dating this guy, but married to one of your friends?
But, as far as your relationship status with this guy...I would just ask him where he is with the relationship. Since he is a bit shy, you may have to coax it out of him. He sounded a bit vague about your status when it came to introducing you to his parents, but he did talk to them about you, so it is, like you said...grey.