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| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 12:48pm |
Well I thought that I would go out side my circle of friends to see what others would say...
I have been dating this guy for about 7 months now... He is a great man. I really enjoy spending time with him. We just have a few issues....
1. Have not had sex in 2 months... he is worried about having more children, and I can not take any birth control due to medical reasons. We have tried the condoms and he is not able to orgasm that way. We talked about him getting fixed. I am not sure how to deal with this anymore. I have asked him if the passion is gone, and if we are just friends. He swears that we are more then friends... and he likes me very much. He is very affectionate with me… always holding my hand and kissing me, making sure I sit next to him on the couch and what not. It is like this when we are in public or just behind closed doors. He is 37 and I am 31. Maybe it is an age thing…. I am just not sure what to think.
2. My friends think it is weird that we have been dating for this long and neither of us has told the other that we love them.
If you have any advice on either of these, please help...
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The 7 months without the three little words thing will probably get you a bunch of different opinions. I think it all depends on how much the two of you have been together in terms of actual time. Some times people are going out exclusively but only see each other once a week and then it takes longer to be sure of such things. My bf and I see each other every day so things progressed very quickly. It is a big deal to say this to someone and it is up to the two of you to decide when you are ready for this step. Have you talked about it at all?