When A Guy Gives You His Number...

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Registered: 07-28-2004
When A Guy Gives You His Number...
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Fri, 11-26-2004 - 12:14pm

Hi everyone!

Happy Holidays!

I've been thinking about this lately. Maybe you guys can help me out.

Lately, I've been meeting guys who give me his numbers. They'd say, "Please give me a call. I'd love to see you again", but they don't ask me my numbers.

I'm just thinking, each guy's different, each person's different, act differently, they take things differently. But is there anything particular in a guy's mind when he gives a girl his number instead of asking her for hers?? Do you guys think that behavior comes from the idea of having less interest in a girl (Being less aggrasive or something)? Of course, I've had guys asking me for my numbers as well. It's just that I've gotten to do some thinking about guys who give me their numbers and guys who ask me my numbers.

Do you have any thoughts or opinions on this? I'd be very appreciated to hear from you guys. Thanks!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 5:12pm
hmmmm... I've read this before!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2004
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 7:27pm
I am kinda in a predicament similar to yours, sunshine. See my post and the following comments about writing a guy off after a couple of days of not hearing from him, especially if he and I exchanged digits, he calls me first, then I call him but he has to go to work. I called back the next day and I get his voice mail and I leave two messages and leave it at that. I have decided not to call him back....two messages is more than enough to say I am interested. And like another poster told me, if he doesn't call back that is his problem. Maybe you can advise me on this too. But as far as a man giving you his number, he is doing that so he doesn't get caught calling you by another woman he might be seeing or his wife. I think if he were really sincere he would want to have your number so he can reach you if he is really interested in seeing you. 10 times out of 10 if he gives you his number before asking you for yours, it might be a wrong number. Or, in the case of a couple of times with me, you call the number, he picks up, he knows it's you calling and you know it's him on the othe line, but he, for whatever reason, is having a "senior moment" and doesn't know who you are, or he says you've got the wrong number.
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Registered: 11-20-2004
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 10:54pm

Hello...I just read something on this exact topic. Basicly it said that if a guy gives you his number and says "Call me sometime" it means he's not all that interested and also gives him the upperhand to say no if you end up calling him for a date. This makes sense to me as naturally we feel more in control if we have an upperhand and less likely to get are pride hurt or our feelings. I don't know if this is exactly correct but it makes sense to me. If a guy is really interested then he would be asking for your number.....but then you have to worry about him calling.....Hope this helps

Debra

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 9:37am

sunshine7903...

Pianoguy is pretty much convinced that exchanging phone numbers is a 2-way street between a man and a woman, but here's a question for a few ivillagers. What if you have a private or unlisted phone number? Is this something you want to exchange with a person you hardly know who may or may not be interested in you?

Sometimes...a man might offer his phone number just to see if a woman is interested in having a 2nd (or 3rd) conversation. . It's amazing how easy it is for many of us to talk to women "as friends" when there are no further expectations on either side.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 11:59am

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to thank you all for all the advice:-)

I'm just not used to men giving me their numbers, not asking for mine. I'm not sure what they really expect from me after giving me their numbers. You guys have given me some things to think about. After thinking sometime, I can't help but keep thinking that those guys aren't that interested in me, though. One time, this guy that I dated about 6 months, asked me for my number, and after getting it, he still made sure he had it right and everything in order for him to reach me. I right away knew that he was really interested in me and wanted to see me in the future. So that's something that I have been used to, you know.

Thanks again for all your advice.