when he stops calling
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| Sat, 04-01-2006 - 1:58pm |
hey guys,
ok so i have a question I figure the answer is pretty clear but I am trying to figure out the best way to handles things since the guy i had been seeing, is someone I work with.. this is the situation:
we had been dating constistantly for two months meaning seeing each other on the weekend, things seemed to going fine until I said that i wasn't ready to have sex with him and I did n't want anything casual, so he stopped calling after that and it has been two weeks, so i tried to call a couple of times and let it go, but I have to see him at work and we work in a small office together so i see him all the time and we spend most of the day avoiding each other.. it is weird honestly..
I am trying to figure out if I should just tbe nice to him and act like we never dated or should I just try to keep my distance from him..it would be really nice if he would have just said that he wasn't interested but since he hasn't I feel somewhat annoyed, but I figure oh well, but the thing that is bothersome is I have to see him and he won't speak..
and when we last saw each other he told me he would wait until I was ready and things were fine, it is ok if he change his mind, but I have to work with him, so him not speaking very uncomforatble at times. so if you guys can offer any suggestions that would be great
:)

It seems that the guy wanted to have sex with you and when you said "I'm not ready" he turned around and walked away. It's possible that he felt somewhat hurt in his "ego man" because you rejected him, BUT that's not your fault. He can feel that way and you're not repsonsible for that. You have the right to say "no" and he should respect that.
Since he's chosen to ignore you I'd do the same in your place. If he doesn't want to talk that's fine. Don't feel that you need closure. You give yourself closure and move on. Don't call him anymore. If he wanted to call you he'd have one it already. Act like it never happen and treat him professionally. He seems to want that since he's not talking to you.
These work place relationships are hard especially, like in your case, if things don't work out.
Don't be shy and date others, preferably outside of work.
I agree - treat him professionally and try to keep your love life out of the office.