When is it time to just give up?

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Registered: 04-16-2003
When is it time to just give up?
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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 9:40pm

I began sleeping with someone a few months ago. It was fun and in the beginning, it was just that fun. There weren't any feelings on my side, although I think he had a semi crush on me. Anyway, about a month into it, I started to develop feelings for him. I shared how I felt, wanting to see where he stood. Was I a booty call, a friend with benefits, or did he have feelings as well? He said that he did, but it was too early to define what was going on between us. Fair enough, I agreed. We agreed to go out alone more often, go on dates, and see where it took us.

It's been two months since. I got out of an engagement and very LONG relationship over a year ago, so I am very scared of getting my heart broken. He contacts me everyday, one way or another, phone call, email, or text. We hang out at least once a week and continue to have sex. However, nothing has been brought up. I don't know how he feels. His best friend told me that he doesn't know where I stand with other guys, he thinks I'm into other people. However, that is not true. I don't initiate contact very often, I let him. Like I said, I am terrified of getting hurt.

Sex is great, but it's also becoming a difficult situation for me, because I do have feelings for him and they are progressing. There have been two times during sex when I swore that he said "I love you." I think it just came out, I don't believe he feels that way.

I'm at the point where I don't know what he thinks/feels and I am terrified to bring it up again. Shouldn't he tell me how he feels or let me know if he wants something more? How do you know when someone is interested? And at what point do you go from dating to a relationship? It's been 3 months now, 2 months of dating, and I don't know how much longer I should continue, or how many more feelings to invest.

Thank you for the help.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 3:42am

lakerfan0202...

This one is sooooo easy....at least for PG.

STOP HAVING SEX WITH THE MAN FOR 30 DAYS and see if the 2 of you have anything else in common?

If his 'daily phone calls' suddenly END...you'll know that S-E-X was the only thing this man wanted from you.

Pianoguy