when is the right time?...

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Registered: 10-12-2004
when is the right time?...
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:50am
I've been dating a wonderful girl for 5 weeks now... It's been great. We laugh together, we're affectionate(although i usually initiate) and i feel the relationship is growing. This all seems mutual but there hasn't been a real expressing of feelings verbally... Is it time to let her know how i feel about her? Basically each time i'm with her, i want to be with her more. I'm loving getting to know her and things are moving at a good pace. Not too fast, not too slow. I don't think it's time for the exclusive talk but i think it's time to let her know where i'm at. Also i'm hoping this will illicit a response from her. What are your thoughts? Hope to hear from you...
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:59am
Absolutely. Tell her you're really enjoying being with her, you like where things are going, you think she's wonderful... It's early days yet but you wanted her to know where you were at.

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:09am
YES! most definitly. girls love to hear things like that. we like to know where we stand with someone, and knowing that we are loved is one of the best feelings ever. make sure and express your feelings and get things out in the open, it will bring you two even closer together!

good luck and have fun. these are the best times!

-JoElle

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:20pm
I agree with the other posts. We love to know how you feel and where we stand, especially in a new relationship where early on there's a lot of uncertainty about how eachother feels. Granted, 5 weeks into a relationship, we're not looking for the L-Word, but just telling her the fact that you really enjoy being with her and want to continue seeing her will assure her that things are going well and that your feelings for eachother are mutual. I'm sure it will also help her reciprocate her feelings towards you.

As far as exclusivity, if you're talking in regards to dating other people, you should at least make sure you're both on the same page, so not to risk hurt feelings. And especially if you're being intimate with one another - that will bring up health concerns. A lot of women assume when they enter into a physical relationship, that it is exclusive, so make sure to clarify.